Men are from Mars Women from Venus
This whining and surprises over women/men are usually from inexperienced folk who marry for 'love' whilst young or similar blunders. Women are wired genetically to 'self preserve' or somewhat 'self absorbed',being mothers. That's why we do not use them in war,the notion of anything bigger than her is non-existent. If your wife has a heart problem and yours matches hers,she will expect you to surrender yours,if you don't she will say you don't 'love' her,or you would at least have offered. If you 'at least offer',she will accept the offer,if you recant the offer she will sue you. Its a no win situation,so dont let her know the entire truth.
It is today the trend to marry out of compatibility with sufficient supporting attributes. It is not uncommon to marry a matching well established partner,at least both over 35 years and use logic and mature conversation to plan family needs and chart your future together. Let the love come later. Someone here is quoting their grandparents and parents!! eish!!!
If you forgo the aforesaid,take the following route remembering women and men are wired in different ways. As a man,marry someone you can support in every way. In any case your finances will be too complicated for her to try to understand and keep it that way. When she inquires about you income,feign fear and talk of complex financial maneuvering like pending 'bankruptcy' issues,'loans','foreclosure','audit reports','my accountant lied to me','NSE meltdown' ask her to pray then later 'i have been bailed out by the plot i bought' all the while keeping the family comfortable. Keep her confused,and primarily a housewife,urge her on when she ventures into pyramid schemes so she learns to fear business,mislead carefully whilst continually giving the family what it needs,and developing. Let her focus on your children and house. She will adore you.
Ninajua Yote!
Ras Kienyeji Man