Dear Skerians,pls just advise me as i am at my wits end and loosing my mind in all ways not only seeing my savings go down as the stocks plum but in my relationship too. I have 2 lovely gals,fathered by 2 different dads. 1st had relationship with this guy whom i didnt know had wife in village,when i knew i left him only to realise i was pg after failed family planning,i kept it despite his repeated advise of abortion. 10yrs later met another guy,had gud relationship even met his relas,since we both wanted a kid,got paged,after the elections due to tribalism he started avoiding me and we parted,that was the end,i went on with my life and supported myself and kids. He never apologised taking off or not financially supporting us. Now he hints like he wants a comeback but i want nothing to do with him,am i being selfish? It isnt fair for my kids to stay fatherless but am determined,he is not the best option in our lives. Pls advise!!!

Lyra*..... I will be hard..... please forgive me..... lakini... it needs to be said...... the first was not a mistake as the second wasnt too..... if you had kept your legs together.... the married fella wont have made you 'paged'..... to begin with....... nor would you have encouraged the second...... if you want kids.... get them when you are in matrimony........ sawa..... now that you didnt listen to your parent(s)/guardian(s)..... you have this situation working its way into your history book....... we say... it is only a dog that eats its vomit...... the man who took off..... let him remain away from you and your kids....... he will bolt again..... look for a third man..... make him your hubby first...... traditional...... civil..... ama Kanisa....... then open your heart and body for him..... not before.... ama... as you stated....... you are not Einstein with family planning methods....... I'm the real Massey F.....shut your mouth

I think this 2nd guy deserves a second chance. BUT only if he makes a commitment to the family and indeed after observing whether he is really making any efforts to change. Forgiveness is the key for any marriage/relationship to work. I will praise thee,O Lord my God,with all my heart: And I will glorify thy name forever more. Psalms 86:12

Stay with your two lovely gals. Otherwise the sooner you realise men are not diapers the better. You can' t change them. Huyu mwanaume atakupachapilia mtoto mwingine wa tatu. Unless you have an agenda i would rather you keep yourself busy with chama's and other women stuff Turn your clutter into cash! Find out how at: http://www.tripleclicks.com/9742052/go

Lyra my dear sister................. You are determined to keep the man away? Right? Now,how will you fullfill the desires of the flesh? If not,then I think,you should get a man, into your life! You have body desires just like all of us. You need an understanding men...........Talk to him...........on the possibility of having a family together............Then you can form family. Dont be too generous with kids,you can add only one. Ensure you talk about this! It would be perfect to remain single,but Paul the Apostle of Jesus Christ advices that you get hooked(marry),if you are overcome with passion. That you may not sin (unauthorised sugarcane). Be warned: Such men,are hard to come by: Men fear responsibility! Especially now that yours is a sofaset! Pray hard and our gracious Father will hear your prayers! But you shall remember the LORD your God,for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth,that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers,as it is this day. Deu 8:18