Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.

The first step is to gather intelligence on the issue then work towards designing a solution that fits. For starters I'd recommend a study in object relations.

But the task isn't going to be easy.

@Wamunyota, I thought your signature constitutes the advice needed!!

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Kwani impunity alikupatia ile simu yake?

Some solutions are better illustrated practically than theoretically.

Why are they eating each other before the formalize their union?

Mwanafunzi and his fiance have been in a 'come we stay' union.

Under these conditions, eating is a given, no? Unless they are dada and ndugu.

Wewe @ McReggae wacha hypocrisy and you started eating blended ones long before you grew teeth!!!

And it continued till the day you formalised yours. Ama tuite watu wa Langata Road?