One rule of thumb: anger in children is punishable.

Do not punish pain. You must differentiate between anger and pain.



The first step in non-negotiable discipline is to set up consequences for misbehavior in advance.

When disobedience occurs,calmly relay the consequences.

At that point,don't negotiate consequences with your children.

If you're the kind of parent who says to their children: 'Tom,you know I'll beat you? Stop this blah blah'

Then you're already loosing control of you child.



Discipline is something that should be handled in private.

When your child misbehaves,quietly acknowledge the misbehavior.

Then,tell them that their consequences will follow when you get home.

If you feel like you do need to address the issue right away,find a private place (your car) and handle it there.



When your child starts thinking and reasoning (at teenage),start changing the tactics.

Start listening to their point of view,and when they are done explaining themselves,show them the right thing.

Connect with them.

AKS

Is he an only child?

Sometimes back i had this information.- That after independence most children we fed with powdered milk got from buffalos. The effect of this was that during their youth they,on being provoked would fight with their heads just like the buffalos do.

I dont wish to scare you but we need to be careful on what we are feeding our children,what they watching on Tv and out of curiosity does kEBS inspect medicines imported into our country? Somebody somewhere may wish to distabilize the family unit to cause desperation mass indiscipline so as to justify a police state- a pillar in the envisaged NEW WORLD ORDER.




muthuri mwanake

Kids at that age are likely to be copying what they see adults do,if the child is left under the care of a house-help most of the time find out if she pinches the kid,or if he goes to school,he must be getting that from classmates/schoolmates.
Talk to your son,explain that it is wrong and painful to pinch others,if you have to punish bad behavior,avoid physical punishment like pinching,smacking etc.
Instead set rules,if possible write them down somewhere,and spell them out to the kids. the day they mess,they know it is wrong and know what to expect.maybe they will miss out on an outing,or start a rewarding program,for every good thing they do they get rewarded,every time they mess their rewards are reduced.
Avoid shouting at kids,they get confused,also watch your language,the way you address them is the way they will address you,they will also address other people just the way you address them!
Monitor what they watch on T V,and spend more time with them,then you might find out where the anger is coming from.
All the best.

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Now that @Mundu is very scary... considering

that most of our kids are fed on formula milk!!



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