This guy obviously got into serious financial distress.....that was his bane....

Sure

My perspective is rather different.

The lady should have done that long time ago. I do no think the lady has another loaded Jamaa out there!!

My reasoning is as follows,

The property was acquired by the two fellows, from your story concurrence ought to have been sought on what to sell and what to do with the extra cash.

My thinking is this a lady cannot sit pretty as you sell one household item after another. Her thinking is simple, you may just sell everything and finally sell her(acquire another fish).

I think the guy should have agreed with the lady that financial resources cannot suffice their current expenditure. Perhaps tell the lady to come up with a comprehensive plan of how to reduce the expenditure to....give her a target. If she can't reduce the expenditure tell her she will be the one footing the extra expenses.

What to do...

Get a good mediator initiate a meeting, discuss the issues and let the lady come back. I'm assuming there are no other fundamental issues.

Next time let the guy know he can't just sell the assets just like that; there must be consultations, consultations, consultations and concurrence. At this age and times it is a nusu mkate marriage one cannot get away with it..it is just real/ factual unless you marry the village girl and that village girl may one time surprise you.

By the way what was the guy doing with the funds after selling the assets? ( Perhaps the lady could not see what he was doing with the extra cash!!)

Tell the man even if he marrys another lady; wembe ni ule ule....

Methinks this Elddy dude is actually @Segemia - umeona vile anajua too many tu-details that a person focussing on the bigger picture of a r'ship would not ordinarily remember that clearly (such as the 4,680/= salo,his tv in Eldy, plus he identifies far too closely with the neighbour's actual reactions/ emotions at each of the stages that only someone who has actually passd through this would). Methinks this is the juicy part,that its him asking for advise in a round-about/ back-door manner.

But I agree that once a woman leave her abode, don't go chasing after her - often those leavin want to see if someone 'cares or loves them enough' to follow them.

Actually the man sold some of the assets which he called non-essential to fund the basic family needs which their salaries could not, high school fees, high utility bills, expensive eating out habits, vehicles fueling and maintenance etc.

For example the man claimed that his monthly electricity bill was never below kshs 15k and sometimes if the wife's nieces and nephews came along, it would shoot to ksh20k. After the actions that he took it reduced to about kshs 6k.

Fueling of the vehicles was costing him about kshs 40k per month for both the vehicles. One car would reduce this to just about a half, kshs 20k!

Any time they went to eat out they would spend about kshs 3.5 in a sitting, two times a week makes kshs 7k and monthly bill kshs 28k.

I don't know whether the figures were exergerated because I am only quoting what I was told by the man.