This is a minor setback.I wouldn't call it trouble. In chinese,crisis is defined by a combination of two symbols,one representing challenge the other opportunity.It all depends on perception.

A lot of negative comments have appeared on this thread which i consider totally unncessary. We have all been in a similar situation one time or the other and thought to ourselves life was against us.It would be totally unfair to judge the newmember.

Personally I think worse things can happen in life. Your future however will depend on how you choose to react in your present circumstances....if you wallow in self pity and frustration and negativity,then you will reap the consequenses. If you perceive the whole issue as a temporary setback and face the future with a positive attitude,then it will be easier to move on and may be someday find a partner who really deserves you.

Take time off and give yourself a good treat....a holiday....a night out with your G friends....drink yourself silly (a glass of wine won't hurt a xtian).....generally relax and start living! Life is too short to for you to spend crying over spilt milk.

Hi ni mambo kidogo tuu!





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I stopped reading after this:

Now the worst part of my problem came when he came to my house in the name of I don’t know what and forces me to have sex with him. I say that coz I had been turned off by his action and had no more feelings for him. He begged me not to disappoint him,on his knees. Removed all his clothes and there was a naked man before me who was once my B/F,do you know what I gave in even though I did not enjoy the game and to cut the long story short,he impregnated me

Bure Kabisa!



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Shame on you

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@Kaimbaga - your advice is precise and to the point.

@new-member,your isn't a unique problem and no one should cast a stone againt you. Many women have made similar mistakes,ended up miserable yet they cant speak out the way you have done. They are the walking dead. Seeking help is the best thing you have done.

My advice is as follows:


Keep off the man. He isnt worth your effort. Should you continue on with him,be ready for the worst. Real men would sucrifice their dignity for their women. A real Godly man would NEVER even think of abortion.
Keep your baby. I have spoken to several women who at some stage they carried out abortion and the pain and regret in their lives is unimaginable. You should not even think of it. Do whatever you can and keep your baibe. Beside,abortion could create extreme complication that could take away your womanhood or even your life. You will come to love your baby.
Expose the guy. You mean nothing to him despite all his words. You are just a fool to him and an accomplice in his evil deeds. Talk to his pastors or the seniors of the church body where he ministers. God will hold you to account should other innocent girls and 'God's sheep' suffer under this man. 'He is leopard in sheeps clothing'. Expose him the soonest possible.
Get tested. Its advicable you go for a HIV test just in case he is infected and has infected you.
Prepare: Start preparing for your baibe. For psychological counselling,see a proffesional counsellor.

Sorry for everytthing and may God give you strength through it all.

The Extrablessed


Life is worth living cos God planned it to be so.