I think it takes a special kind of man to raise another man's kid especially when they know its not their kid. Can you imagine the costs involved such as school fees from nursery to high school? Paying 40k per term from baby class to form 4 will cost you 120,000 per year X 15 years which is 1.8m. And then you add healthcare, food etc etc. The bill might go to over 3m.

This reminds me about the cuckoo bird which doesn't build a nest nor raise its young but rather lays it's eggs in other birds nests and the other birds gets to raise the cuckoo chicks with the cuckoo not incurring any expense at all. Much respect step dads.

That daughter resembles the guy kabisa, seen her photos..plus, the way I know him he may have done a DNA, He is so sure about it. He is capable of anything.

This thread seems more of an hypothetical question thrown our way fowhatever reasons!

Having said that, considering the situation I would agree 100% with @ obi.

If you have the means and want to give your child the best, nobody should stand in the way.
It is in the best interest of the child too.

Imagine the situation once the girl comes of age and realises that while you gave your other kids the best of education and other care you did not try hard enough to do the same for her!

How do you live with yourself.
Wouldnt the Daughter be justified not to express much love to you!

Obama had a disturbed teenage.
He kept wondering why his father had 'left paradise'.
His Mother had to keep making excuses for the Father.

Completely unrelated but I will bite, how then is it that Obama is known as the son of a Kenyan student and not the Indonesian step father.

I thought Obama was raised by his grandparents Infact Obama barely refers to his step father as an influencer anywhere.

I think this is a case by case thing, some people do not want to acknowledge past missteps and are happy to bury their heads in the sand and pretend their child is not out there. Others accept and want to correct their past missteps and are making concerted efforts to connect with their children.

I know which person I would rather be.

@Hardwood, here you just scored an own goal, Obama's case is a testament to the bond between a child and his biological parents.

Kama hutaki watoto wako shauri yako.

Seems that you do not know Obama's history. Obama was born in 1961 and shortly after his mother and Obama snr separated. The mother remarried and Obama was raised by this step dad in the US 1963-1966 and then the stepdad moved the family to his native Indonesia where Obama lived 1967 -1970, and then in 1971 Obama went back to the US to attend school and that is when he started living with his grandparents. And yes Obama has alot of praise for his stepdad as can be seen in Obama's memoirs.

C+P

In 1963, Obama's mother Dunham met Lolo Soetoro, an Indonesian East–West Center graduate student in geography at the University of Hawaii, and the couple were married on Molokai on March 15, 1965. After two one-year extensions of his J-1 visa, Lolo returned to Indonesia in 1966, followed sixteen months later by his wife and stepson in 1967, with the family initially living in a Menteng Dalam neighborhood in the Tebet subdistrict of south Jakarta, then from 1970 in a wealthier neighborhood in the Menteng subdistrict of central Jakarta.

From ages six to ten, Obama attended local Indonesian-language schools: Santo Fransiskus Asisi (St. Francis of Assisi) Catholic School for two years and Besuki Public School for one and a half years, supplemented by English-language Calvert School homeschooling by his mother. During his time in Indonesia, Obama's step-father taught him to be resilient and gave him "a pretty hardheaded assessment of how the world works."

http://europe.newsweek.c...-his-father-88011?rm=eu

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Barack_Obama