@leona, do you remember someone who said.... "moving on"! may be that's what you should be doing.... just may be...

But really, i am a woman, i do not justify a man hitting a woman for whatever reason, but i think i am also intelligent enough to know that we are all wired very differently, our ability to hold on to some things are very different. When you understand your spouse, you know how to treat them. Even if part of "treating" them is leaving them... why didnt Wambui move out? if the man had refused to leave and she knew he had tried killing her 3 times previously, she owed herself some responsibility to say, look, it is not working and since you have refused to move, even if it is me paying the rent, i can pay rent elsewhere and hence, i am leaving with my child. so you really cant put all the blame on the husband. He has his share of the blame alright. There are chances that he may not have wanted to kill her in the first place, but he used unnecessary force on her and realised she was gone!

Be as it may, if you feel your spouse is violent, whether it is your wife or your husband, you dot wait for them to leave(if that's the only remaining option) if they dont want, you can also leave..... for that part, i also fault her for holding on too long! Someone here said he/she had always told her to leave him but she did not. i think that was the biggest mistake.

Getting more clouded......
Wanaume let's love our wives,
Wanawake tupende our husbands

@sparkly. I am sorry you did not get my point. I have not come into the defense of anyone. How can I, when I do not know any of them. Mcreg raised issues which are very important. I guess you should be addressing those issues than be diverted by my comments regarding the way he introduced the discussion. Can Wazuan's stop being diverted by my comments and focus on the very important issues Mcreg's has presented. I also want to contribute but I find myself always responding to issues that may not have been the focus of the originator (at least according to his response). Enjoy your day sparkly.

Ombeta got manslaughter for Moses. He might just walk after being in custody for 7 years

Which would mean that one's better off in remand for some of these crimes. The time served there is an "investment" should you be convicted.

well....

from case excerpts neither of the 2 was an angel in this marriage...

Whatever jail time this guy serves, it because he lacked courage to walk away.

Sometimes, killing is not intentional. In the fury of the moment, one may hit another, with an intention of inflicting pain but not to kill, but the recipient ends up dead anyway.