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Rank: Elder Joined: 8/11/2010 Posts: 1,588
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I always thought that to have a marriage in the first place, the two just need to know what the creator of 'marriage' wanted it to be.
Know the creator, and follow Him, and all the rest will fall into place. Leave out the creator, well, there is no quantum physics to be grasped in that.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/27/2008 Posts: 4,114
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simonkabz wrote:And what's with married women nowadays? They are hunting with blatant impunity! Dangerous generalisation! You meet one or two married women... OK, three married women who are "hunting with impunity" {whatever that means} and conclude that all [or at least, most) married women are "hunting with impunity". You forget that there are about 20,000,000 female humans in Kenya, about 1/4 of whom are married... i.e., 5,000,000...... Nothing is real unless it can be named; nothing has value unless it can be sold; money is worthless unless you spend it.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/22/2009 Posts: 7,895
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mukiha wrote:simonkabz wrote:And what's with married women nowadays? They are hunting with blatant impunity! Dangerous generalisation! You meet one or two married women... OK, three married women who are "hunting with impunity" {whatever that means} and conclude that all [or at least, most) married women are "hunting with impunity". You forget that there are about 20,000,000 female humans in Kenya, about 1/4 of whom are married... i.e., 5,000,000...... Two or three? They are very many!!! I have a married colleague who calls her boyfriend(s) within the earshot of everyone. She has absolutely no shame! She goes to the extent of telling the fellow on the other side that the hubby wants to meet her for coffee ["today"] and there is no way she can meet him after that coz they'll probably go home together! They have to reschedule the date. What is he doing on... One day she was asked by a colleague why she does that to the hubby and she said and I quote "Don't get me wrong. I love my husband with all my heart and I can't imagine life without him lakini mpango wa kando ni lazima!". wtf???? And that is just one. I know quite a number of ladies playing their husbands. Good thing I don't know the hubby's on personal level coz I'd be tempted to tell them and end up in the middle of a messy domestic fight - and you know what "waswahili" said about wapendanao. This world - or the part of it that I know - is rotten!!! What do you call it when a married woman blatantly asks you out? A chick asks you to father their kid to your face etc. etc. Siku za mwisho au sio siku za mwisho? As P. P. Mwai wa Githinji would say "Dunia imepasuka katikati!" Never count on making a good sale. Have the purchase price be so attractive that even a mediocre sale gives good returns.
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Rank: New-farer Joined: 9/20/2010 Posts: 90 Location: Nairobi
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@Waridi1, Peppy and Wendz,
Thank you very much. You have added so much value to this thread. I feel like I have had a session with a marriage counselor. Your information is of much value to anyone who is serious about a stable marriage.
@Waridi1. I am single and searching.
@User. Sorry but I now have a reason to drop your advise. At least the three ladies have persuaded me to do so.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/22/2009 Posts: 7,895
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petro08 wrote:@Waridi1, Peppy and Wendz,
Thank you very much. You have added so much value to this thread. I feel like I have had a session with a marriage counselor. Your information is of much value to anyone who is serious about a stable marriage.
@Waridi1. I am single and searching.
@User. Sorry but I now have a reason to drop your advise. At least the three ladies have persuaded me to do so.
Here we go again! Six months countdown to another " Please Help" thread.  He he he. Just messin with you. Never count on making a good sale. Have the purchase price be so attractive that even a mediocre sale gives good returns.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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MaichBlack wrote:mukiha wrote:simonkabz wrote:And what's with married women nowadays? They are hunting with blatant impunity! Dangerous generalisation! You meet one or two married women... OK, three married women who are "hunting with impunity" {whatever that means} and conclude that all [or at least, most) married women are "hunting with impunity". You forget that there are about 20,000,000 female humans in Kenya, about 1/4 of whom are married... i.e., 5,000,000...... Two or three? They are very many!!! I have a married colleague who calls her boyfriend(s) within the earshot of everyone. She has absolutely no shame! She goes to the extent of telling the fellow on the other side that the hubby wants to meet her for coffee ["today"] and there is no way she can meet him after that coz they'll probably go home together! They have to reschedule the date. What is he doing on... One day she was asked by a colleague why she does that to the hubby and she said and I quote "Don't get me wrong. I love my husband with all my heart and I can't imagine life without him lakini mpango wa kando ni lazima!". wtf???? And that is just one. I know quite a number of ladies playing their husbands. Good thing I don't know the hubby's on personal level coz I'd be tempted to tell them and end up in the middle of a messy domestic fight - and you know what "waswahili" said about wapendanao. This world - or the part of it that I know - is rotten!!! What do you call it when a married woman blatantly asks you out? A chick asks you to father their kid to your face etc. etc. Siku za mwisho au sio siku za mwisho? As P. P. Mwai wa Githinji would say "Dunia imepasuka katikati!" Whaaat? and you didnt pick this from a novel? A married woman asks you to FATHER THEIR kid? how now? and reason being? the man cant father his kids or she hates him enough? I just dont get it.... If it is a single woman, that i can understand... married? aaaiiih!
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 12/3/2010 Posts: 1,141 Location: Londokwe
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MaichBlack wrote:petro08 wrote:@Waridi1, Peppy and Wendz,
Thank you very much. You have added so much value to this thread. I feel like I have had a session with a marriage counselor. Your information is of much value to anyone who is serious about a stable marriage.
@Waridi1. I am single and searching.
@User. Sorry but I now have a reason to drop your advise. At least the three ladies have persuaded me to do so.
Here we go again! Six months countdown to another "Please Help" thread. He he he. Just messin with you. The choice is yours , na usiseme hukuambiwa.  All the best. I was just expressing the General mood in the Country (City)according to opinion polls from my local pub 2012 is here.Kenya is Ours.Be Part of The Peace Keeping Mission To Protect Our Motherland.Say No To Violence and Tribal Hatred .If you can read this,wewe ni mtu amesoma, usifikirie kama mtu hajaenda shule .Ni Hayo Tu
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 12/3/2010 Posts: 1,141 Location: Londokwe
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petro08 wrote:
@Waridi1. I am single and searching.
Kongowea has set a good precedence, please dont let us down. Should anything go ahead Kandahar bombing should be fast and furious .No 90day rule please 2012 is here.Kenya is Ours.Be Part of The Peace Keeping Mission To Protect Our Motherland.Say No To Violence and Tribal Hatred .If you can read this,wewe ni mtu amesoma, usifikirie kama mtu hajaenda shule .Ni Hayo Tu
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/22/2009 Posts: 7,895
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Wendz wrote:MaichBlack wrote:mukiha wrote:simonkabz wrote:And what's with married women nowadays? They are hunting with blatant impunity! Dangerous generalisation! You meet one or two married women... OK, three married women who are "hunting with impunity" {whatever that means} and conclude that all [or at least, most) married women are "hunting with impunity". You forget that there are about 20,000,000 female humans in Kenya, about 1/4 of whom are married... i.e., 5,000,000...... Two or three? They are very many!!! I have a married colleague who calls her boyfriend(s) within the earshot of everyone. She has absolutely no shame! She goes to the extent of telling the fellow on the other side that the hubby wants to meet her for coffee ["today"] and there is no way she can meet him after that coz they'll probably go home together! They have to reschedule the date. What is he doing on... One day she was asked by a colleague why she does that to the hubby and she said and I quote "Don't get me wrong. I love my husband with all my heart and I can't imagine life without him lakini mpango wa kando ni lazima!". wtf???? And that is just one. I know quite a number of ladies playing their husbands. Good thing I don't know the hubby's on personal level coz I'd be tempted to tell them and end up in the middle of a messy domestic fight - and you know what "waswahili" said about wapendanao. This world - or the part of it that I know - is rotten!!! What do you call it when a married woman blatantly asks you out? A chick asks you to father their kid to your face etc. etc. Siku za mwisho au sio siku za mwisho? As P. P. Mwai wa Githinji would say "Dunia imepasuka katikati!" Whaaat? and you didnt pick this from a novel? A married woman asks you to FATHER THEIR kid? how now? and reason being? the man cant father his kids or she hates him enough? I just dont get it.... If it is a single woman, that i can understand... married? aaaiiih! @Wendz - The world is coming to an end. As someone said, "Elimu inaondoa ujinga lakini haiondoi upumbavu!". I had a talk with one apparently educated lady - she has papers to prove she is educated - that sent shivers down my spine! She was trying to explain to me why it is absolutely necessary for a lady to have at least one kid out of wedlock. She told me that if there is any hereditary issue or one of those problems that come about by combining harmful but otherwise passive genes in the parents bla bla bla, that one kid will be spared. Another one - educated but believes that you can be done in through witchcraft - told me that if you have a kid out of wedlock, if the rest are bewitched - especially from the hubby's side - that one kid will survive. What??? Advice to wazua men: One thing I have realized, if you have female friends - no monkey business - just pure friendship - with ladies, then you are going to learn so much stuff, you will not believe it. Never count on making a good sale. Have the purchase price be so attractive that even a mediocre sale gives good returns.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/4/2008 Posts: 1,703
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waridi1 wrote:Well...
I'm in my mid twenties, slowly getting to that point where I start to wonder, "When?" Most of my friends are 32 and above, and single. And we're all Christian women, we're beautiful (really, we are, lol), I'm even in ministry and I get a lot of attention... but from the wrong guys (my spirituality defines my life). We're homely, nurturing, simple, hatuna maneno mob. I think we're even fun.
However, I'm starting to hypothesize. Perhaps desperation is one thing that contributes to unhappy marriages. I have many friends who will now just marry anybody. At 19-23 girls want glamour - money, height, fame, education, etc. The men don't come. Or they do and are heartbreakers. In their mid 20s they get serious about life and God and begin to negotiate with Him. In their 30s they begin to go on 40 day dry fasts. And that's the point at which any man goes/will be accepted. And if any man goes, the marriage cannot be happy - they will be resentful, bitter, bored, disillusioned... and that's when the drama begins.
But there are happy marriages.. not easy, not perfect, but happy, where the couples would do it all over again if they were to make the choice at a different time and place.
Just my 2 cents  Think Positive Test Negative
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