@Karrus,there is an unwritten rule (among Guyz) that you should't get married before you are 30...but that is a matter for another day.

Marriage is a lifetime decision and its important that one thinks with his mind and not his heart.Most people rush into marriage without taking into account the gravity of their decisions and the responsibility it entails and sooner than later the marriage is over and you have another 'fatherless' child and a heartbroken single parent who now has 2 kids....

If i were 30 and below i'd not rush to consumate the marriage. I was in a more or less similar relationship and when i look back,am glad i didn't formalise.The lady is now married to some rich old odiero and the rest is,as they say,history.......We are in touch and given an opportunity we'd rekindle old memories......





May we live in interesting times!

Ahh Karuss,pole I posted my reply in a hurry,as a guy I would trust my instincts,if they tell me I will have a problem in future,I would lenga getting cosy with the chic i the first place coz at some point I would have to bail without telling her I'm doing so coz she has baggage. But if the background is explained i.e. father abandoned,no relationship,kid/s has good behaviour (and is not old - I'm not hooking up with anyone with a teenager or even school going kids),father didn't have some hereditary s*** that might pop up in future,blah blah,and I REALLY like the woman,then maybe. I think you see my point here,why would any man want to be thinking about ALL these (and more) things in his mind at night when he can just explore all the hectares of land available in Kenya. Unless am really lonely (no offense to any single ladies with kids in this forum) but I'd rather take my chances elswhere. I end my submission thus

smano

I wonder if there is a guy out there who watches TV and sees Samuel Wanjiru winning a gold medal in the Olympics and several million shillings for the London Marathon and he proudly says to his friends,'Nirikuwa karibu kuoa mama yake rakini nikagundua kuwa ako na mtoto. Nikamuacha kabisa!!!!!'

Weusi wa nywele za mshtakiwa zaonyesha ujinga alio nao

Some of u guys have really spoken negative on single ladies with kids..i happen to be one and not by choice..just bcos some dude wasnt responsible doesnt mean tht being a single parent is a grave sin,i thnk its beta to be a single mum than to perform an abortion,

'Still my mouth so You may speak. Calm my hands so You may lead.

Quiet my mind so I may be more of you and less of me'

@wendz....A twist in the tale? You've lost me a tad... I thought Karuss was a jamaa....

May we live in interesting times!