There is some vengeance form the X's family, they don't like my guy coz he 'refused' to marry their daughter, issues which caused their breakup not withstanding. So the X's family may not co-operate.

Primarily why the guy wants to go to court is because of access, coz he knows custody is a tall order.

A last one, with this Nairobi's capitalistic nature, if a family/jirani moved houses and changed schools for kids, how would you go about establishing where they have moved to? You realize it can be a process. Its not so straight forward i believe especially if u stay far away

So apparently, the guy calls the x at her workplace and it is the hubby who answers and abuses him. Surely, Okay!!!!

@tnai9, tell your guy to read the children's act 2001, I think it was ammendd in 2012. Specifically, the definition of parental responsibility.

He has no legal standing. As @intelligentsia said, the day his ex married the new hubby, that new guy took over parental responsibility.

He cannot argue standard of living because the courts only look at that when you are divorcing.

If the ex divorces the new hubby, the court would force him (current hubby), to continue providing for the kid as he is doing now.

There is a guy who got a beautiful mwk and he could visit her house often. Once in a while he could pay school fees for the mpango's kid (not his). Then with time the relationship ended. The mwk sued him and won. Courts decision was he had already accepted parental responsibility.

Ask around, those two words have seen men weep in the family court.

Hapa tunachengwa. Ni Sawa tu, Mungu anakuona.

I wont go back to commenting on this, think some people here want me to start statements with "Naapa ya kwamba"

Anyway i have heard of women calling clandes, MWK, strange nos to ask wewe ni nani and wachana na bwana yangu. But a man doing that, .

Anyway your 'colleague/friend' will help himself realizing that money is the root of all evil but is not the solution to all the problems in the world. How does he know that the man goes through the wife's phone. Probably it is the wife who shows the husband what the fala is doing.

Im almost tempted to believe that this guy ran away from hie responsibilities of taking care of this child when she was born and he was broke$@***. Now that he thinks he is financially stable/making it, he wants to show is muscles and inflated six pack.

My simple take!!!!!

Dont be perplexed.

My point is this...If this X Boyfie/biological father feels very strongly that he must support his daughter by paying fees nakadhalika then can he send the same through the mum.This business of going to school and assessing the torn shoes and quickly going to buy others is what am opposed to.Same to school fees...he knows the amount,give to the mum to pay.This will give the girl one centre of focus ..the mum and step dad.Him on the other hand will feel ok he is living up to his obligation

The Lady should not have cut off communication and transfered the girl without consultation. I agree with those here saying that they should sit down and talk about the best affairs of their daughter. However those advocating for him to forget her until she turns 18 are totally wrong. I believe he has to be in her life. Guys are saying ati choices have consequences, well it rolls both ways. She married knowing very well she has someone else's kid. He married her with 'baggage'. If you look at this authors post he says that the biological dad has been paying fees all along until the kid was secretly transfered. Why stop him now?

The Kid is now 10 Years the biological Dad is engrained in her already, how is she faring psychogically now that her Dad has suddenly been cut out of her life?

The author says here that the only place the Dad used to see the daughter was at school. Well now they've now made it possible for him to have more time with his daughter. How? When he goes to court he will be granted visitation rights. They will be castigated for hiding his daughter. The Step Dad ata do?

The step Dad has just made his situation worse. Sawa the real Dad won't be paying fees lakini he will have legal access to hus daughter! The courts will not deny this. So whether the step dad likes it or not the real dad will always be in the picture and will have a hand in the way his daughter is raised. And that is the way it should be.

I SAID AND REPEAT FOR 1000 TIMES, YOUR FRIEND IS A NERD.

Haiya! Which man is going to feel comfortable when his wife regularly recieves cash from another Jamaa no matter the intentions? Kwanza from an ex.... Let him pay directly to the institution.