@Janet was humbled and could not hide the shame and laughter at the same time!

First, it is funny how those who are not in this institution frown at it
Most of them only know failed polygamous marriages. Most of them are not even married (not talking about you CLK, I know you're married ), and still looking but will be comfortable being a mistress.

I myself is from family
whose grandfather (my late grand-dad) had four wives. For your information, all my uncles and aunties went to school and worked in good jobs, most of them are now retired.

And if you're wondering
all the sibblings grew up close and until now the families still do things together.
Many people cannot tell which child is from which mother, espeially the men, coz they resemble my grand father.

So they way to raise a family is personal choice
There are even children from monogamous families who are mistreated.

You see polygamy is there to solve many social issues
Including prostitution, inbalanced sexual needs in relationships.

It is a fact that almost all men like
to have as many female partners as possible.
They have that natural instinct to be with many women.
If we just rubbish it because of some so-called assumed likely cases, we end up creating problems, including unfaithfulness, because men,
generally speaking, will still go out to satisfy that desire to be with many women.
Why not give the men the official opportunity to do what they enjoy doing in safe way as long as he can afford.

If you feel this is for you, then keep off
There are men who want one woman.
The same way there are men who don't even want even a woman!

Don't bad mouth something just because it does not suit you.

Below is the wisdom behind polygamy in Islam:
The Creator knows best why men are given the permission to polygamy.

1) It's known fact that there are more women than men
Women also have longer life.
You don't have to ask how this is, because you should know that more men die from things like wars & other calamities.
And you would find more widows in the world than widowers.

What happens in the societies that restrict men?
to only one wife, you can see the result, many women without husbands.

You know very well that
when a woman is divorced or her husband dies, many times it becomes very, very difficult for her to remarry. Islam permits polygamy to solve this problem.

2) Also, sometimes, the wife is found to be barren
And husband wants to have children.
Polygamy can solve this problem.

3) You know and I know that some men
are not satisfied with one woman.
Of course some are satisfied with one woman.
And of course you know there are men who don't even want any woman.
So they are all differnt.
So recognising this need, Islam has permitted man to marry more than one wife
In societies where they pretend, most men fall into adultery & fornication.

You know, that in these so-called developed societies
it is common practive for men to get themselves mistresses.
They also have many extramarital affairs.
This way, you know, the woman in this relationship is disgraced and unprotected.

You know that this same western society
scream when they heat a man having more than one wife.
This way, the woman would have honour, dignity and lead a safe life.

4. Also, a woman may fail to satisfy needs (physical)
of husband because say illness.
Islam allowing polygamy has closed the door to extramarital affairs.

These are just some of the wisdom
TO us Muslims, it is the decision of the Creator, and we accept it.

Allah tells us in Quran:


Summary
If a man is able to marry two, or three, or four wives and he treats all justly, then there is nothing Islamically.
As long as he can fulfil the rights of the wives as stipulated in the Islamic marriage law.

And women have the right to be treated justly with love in respect.
Of course, it is not easy for the first woman to accept this.
But it is for the better

Slept my mind, i needed to put a disclaimer about Muslims, i know it would work since it is expected a husband will at some point marry three more and this is what women Muslim sign up for. However its different for Christians, who will take the vows in church and do the exact opposite, resulting in resentful wives since this is not what they signed for.

And NO, i am not married, very very single, umefikisha mwisho, ama naweza kuwa number four??

Karume in his biography says he got an additional wife to take care of his businesses.