@Othelo, this is your 1st post, are you the man or the lady???

This is the 32nd post and nobody has offered any advice so far to this troubled man. Does it mean that wazua is full of people who are so devoid of matrimonial experiences??

Yes he told me what the conflict was all about.

The man was sent packing from his well paying job about 24 months (August 2011) before the fallout. It is a long story, but the man was lucky to have had a relative in Eldoret who twelve months ago connected him to the current employer and that is how he landed in Eldoret. In Eldoret, the wife got a job with an oil company and was later transferred to Nairobi. The wife and the children moved into their house which they had previously built and the man was left in Eldoret.

Sadly, the combined salaries for both the man and the wife were not anywhere near what the man was earning before and it had become relatively hard for the family to adjust to the new status and thus the family started developing financial stresses.

The lady maintained that the children would have to continue with their school in one of the expensive institutions in Nairobi and other relatively expensive lifestyles, after all both of them were earning, but it was the man who was footing the bill with his salary.

After a couple of months, the man had really felt the heat and decided to take some decisive action. Had the children transferred from the expensive school to cheaper ones. Cancelled all eating outs, scrapped the "new clothes per month" policy.

Then after that he removed all the instantaneous water heaters (showers) in the house, removed and sold the deep freezer (after all they had a large refrigerator) and lastly in November 2013 he got rid of the microwave unit.

According to the man, the family was able to safe a third of their total earnings, but this did not go well with the wife who felt that the man was out to sell everything that they had acquired. So on the material day, the man had suggested that they sell one of the cars since each had one as they did not need two cars at the time.

An argument had ensued when the man told the wife that they would sell the car that she drove and instead she be driving his. According to the man, he did not need a car in Eldoret at the time. This triggered a full scale conflict.

The day before he went to Eldoret, he had gone to purchase a few items in town and on his way back his car had developed a mechanical problem and was forced to drive it to his mechanics place. He went home using public means and the following day on 28th November 2013 he called on me to escort him.

@segemia you did not see this?