@new member,

How do you call it quits with a guy then anakuja kuomba hiyo mzigo na wewe unateremsha bendera bila kufikiria.

You must be very cheap!!!!

However,you sound so desparate in need of man and love.This is common to everyone and the reason you should see Mrs Nyanja to counsel you.

Some of these stories normall discourages me from getting mariage.kwa sababu wengi ya hawa wasichana wanapatiana ovyo ovyo kwa their X or neighbours.


Disclaimer : This is my opinion and not a recommendation.

@King Its so true,BTW ile bash is still underway waiting for the right time.(God's time) ;-)

d'you know I look at her and think,what if our fear got the best of us and decided to abort? I'm even shedding tears thinking bout that. i believe they (brav A and B) are the reason im where I am. they are my my biggest joy in life.

imagine the kids innocence,their growing up,their smiles,kelele,their views about everything (Bravlet A is certain and can even bet that Jesus ali-swim kwa maji hehehe)

the point is @New.comer don't think of it Never.

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@newmember... I have the choiciest of words,BUT I will NOT use them... Presuming this is an authentic post...

so to answer you...



1. What if I abort and he does not marry me? you will NOT abort the mission and he will NOT marry you,trust,you do NOT want this nig in your business or your childs business.



2. What if I abort and that was the only child God had given me? refer to Answer No. 1,part 1,you will NOT abort this child.



3. What if I die in the process of trying to abort? you could,but again,answer 1 part one.



4. Should I do a wrong to correct a wrong in as much as am going to suffer big shame? child please,you ARE 31,like someone said,this should harldy be a problem now,yo grown... you can make your own decisions,buy a car,buy a house,get a baby,at the risk of sounding rude,no one cares about those things when you're at a certain age... free country,guilt or no guilt.



5. Will God ever forgive me since I know its wrong & there are number of girls I have always discouraged from aborting and now they are mothers? fortunately He will,His mercies - they are FRESH every morning! but again,you will NOT abort this child.



6. Should I abort to please men? To appear holy b4 people that I have never had sex yet I murdered. should you? inwardly,the guilt is killing you... to please a would-be pastor...seriously,should you? and when word gets out...(bad news always has a way opf leaking... how will those 'watching and walkin the straight and narrow because of you feel? you wanna play them too??



7. I will I feel in that wedding gown being praised by our pastors,friends & relatives who will be telling other ladies to follow my steps yet deep within me???????? you will feel foolish,very very foolish... seriously.



8. Should I abort for the sake of saving his integrity yet I know in the first place he has none? integrity? him? whats that?!?! I know you're vulnerable and confused now but ARE you serious? you think he HAS integrity??? Does he know what that means?? stop using big words on a little person,STOP!



9. Could this one month old in my womb be another Obama in the making? maybe,maybe not... but you never will know if you abort.



10. Now that I have messed,will it be possible to get a man who will accept to marry me with my baby if I spare his/her life? hail yeah!!! and by all means! I have a couple of friends,down that road and have had good men make honest women of them... fret not. Good women are hard to come by.



Side Bar: Having a child at 31 through a tragic TRAGIC decision is hardly the end of the world... you sound sad,this might just be your fix - the baby I mean,they bring untold joy,just wise up and loose the would be pastor with quickness. dont let him play with your emotions... remember you are very vulnerable right now,surround yourself with loving people,do stuff you like to do,knit,hell - bungee jump if you can,get a craving that involves food if you dont already have one,but surround yourself with positiveness... and let us know when the baby's here.







if you can not be kind,at least have the decency to be vague

@new.member

Thats a story right there. i have been pretty busy of late but i do pop in though no time to respond but when i read your story,i couldnt resist. it is sad that you are going through this in your life. A mistake has been done and its irreversible (whichever way you look at it). if you abort,you will never ever forget the deed and it will haunt you. If you dont,you will have a baby to remind you of that man throughout your life. the faster you throw the hatred you feel towards that man in the river the better for you. This is because at some point,it can affect how you feel towards your baby. You need to realise that if you abort,you will be sacrificing the most innocent soul in this whole thing. You and your former boyfriend messed up,why do you want your child to suffer for your mistake? Talk to your family (whoever you are close to - they can be very encouraging during this time when you need support) and most importantly dont forget to go for a HIV test (i do not intend to scare you but you will be better off knowing than not knowing).

It is confusing to think that you will be judged by people but it is important that you soul search yourself and being the christian you are,decided whether it is best to look good in people's eyes or in God's eyes. Who do you fear? If you read the bible,there is some place (am not good at memorising verses) which says that - fear not the one who can destroy the flesh but the one who can destroy the soul - or soemthing like that. ask yourself,unamtumikia nani?

At 31 you must be having a job,a shelter,and some means to take care of yourself. Remember there are children out there whose parents do not even have what you have. Believe me,when people tell you here that children are a blessing,the truly are. They come with blessings too - ask @Brav - you heard his story. may be he wouldnt be having all he has if he had decided to let his fears be. God will take care of your child and blessings will flow for keeping that baby. You are believer,believe he will carry you through. Dont partner with hypocrisy of having your bf or would-be-holier-than-thou paster want you to. You can hide your ways from people,but not from God.

Finally,keep and love your baby,make peace with your God and yourself and leave everything else to Him.

If all fails,get the baby and give it to me - of course we shall seek @TRS services so you declare you will never claim for him/her even if he becomes the next Obama,Mandela,Maathai or Wendz for that matter!!!!!

Some deals are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.

The only question you really need to answer is #5 and once you correctly do (i.e. DO NOT ABPORT) most of the rest are irrelevant except # 10. I'd advise you to answer 'No' to #5 and don't abort. And I can answer # 10 - yes you will - for there are still human beings walking amongst us. Strengthen the faith within you and you will; correct a wrong with a right,you will accept some suffering and shame but you will not inflict death to correct the misdeeds of TWO people.

The problem with equality is that we desire that it be with those that have more than us rather that those that have less