Take it however you want,but your instincts should give you some pretty good warning signals.

Kama u r easy and there is friendship and laughter and you've sorod that ikiumana she is stable and level headed,why the hell not go for it?

A very small percentage of this society is chaste (and note I do not say celibate,thats another issue); personally,I think the maturity and courage it takes to raise a child single handedly says something about the character of the person involved. It may lead to certain affectations that make relationships difficult but those develop of necessity,to provide defence against a cruel world,and if you can earn trust genuinely you could be on to a good thing.

On the other hand,some women who have chosen to have children did so indolently,as a path of least resistance so to put it. You might be advised to stay away in this case but even so remember you are responsible for your environment,& if you think you're strong enough,go ahead and gouge away!

If it worries you that the kids are not yours,remember,even your own kids are not yours. A goat or a snake can procreate,but fatherhood or motherhood is a stewardship,a responsibility for the life of another human being that is far removed from a random response to a lustful urge.

Use your judgement.

Life is complex,it has a real and an imaginary part

@ the real shaft,I too think that your decoder is switched off today or maybe you had too many yesterday. or somebody exchanged you real shaft and gave you a Taiwanese one. te heee. just kidding

I agree with the guys who think that this matter is best looked at from a case to case basis.






What a bam bam?

Marry her if you love her and if the kid is not attached to the father.

That is a tricky situation. My advice would be if it is your first marriage don't marry her. The more you see the 'bastard' the more you think of how the other guy used to 'work on her'. That will kill your psche. Further,if the lady is incontact with the father you can't rule them 'doing it for old time sake'.What kind of marraige will it be if the father of the kids keep visiting the kids?

On the flipside if it your second marriage you can consider marrying a woman with a kid since kila mtu analete mzigo wake.


die trying

I join those who stand for determination on case by case........and this is why.Most men run away from the said single women with kids the moment they realise they are pregnant........It's an old known thing and the likes of TRS refer to this as 'jumping'.Suppose the ladies had a way of running away from us and leaving behind each kid we father?.Many men would need a children's home in their compound....At least in most cases,the ladies limit the kids to no more than one....!!..How many men can say this for dead?........and before we judge our sisters,let's ask ourselves this question then.How many ladies would marry a single man with kids.....?...Many kids..??.....while at it,we would wish to marry gals who have never been ploughed.......Our gals to,wish to marry men who have never ploughed......Can sk dudes stand and let's get a count.Am obviously out...!


Yombo dhier....!!