Trufena wrote:Thank you all for your response.And did somebody say that people will tend to show me their back.Yes,am all alone in this except my daughter and definitely God.They are the only ones who gives me reason to look for another day.Even my own pastor who has told me that he has reached his limit and so am on my own.He is right coz sincerely there's nothing he can do.Remember I was not doing anything in darkness.At some point,I even invited this Conman to Church and he met the Pastor & an Apostle who was a police CID ,but the guy slipped in our hands just like that.He asked to be given one month to sort out his rent to be able to be access his documents(tittle deed) to enable the transfer but that was the last time we saw him.He even called the mother before us to confirm how the dad is critically sick so I have a feeling that even the parents are involve.I was thinking of tracing their home to talk to parents but I believe it might not help much.
My father died long time ago and its true the r/ship wasn't good since he used to be drunk 24/7.
However,I thank God for one think,loosing my Job is a blessing in disguise since I could have not known the true colors of this conman.I still dont understand why he insisted that I add his name to my childs birth certificate.When I told him that I was going to do name correction with the ministry,he quickly signed an affidavit and gave me a copy of his ID to include him as the father.So I wonder whether he also wanted to steal my daughter as well or this was just meant to fool me around.Fortunately,at that moment I was not convinced that there was love that could lead to marriage.During that period I was only waiting for him to transfer the tittle so that I can cut ties but somehow he was smarter than me.
My only prayer to God now is that he may restore back my Job.I will be able to repay back the loan and provide basic needs for my child which is currently impossible.
But I also have to accept the fact that I dont know how to pray.Am saying so because at the beginning of this r/ship I involve God.I fasted for three days asking God whether it was worth getting into.But am getting my answers when its a bit too late.And remember God does no mistake,so I am the problem or God allowed it to happen for some reasons, I dont know.
I wish I had the capacity to expose the conman in the media so that some of my sisters being conned right now out there may be safe.But again,I fear for my security since the cruel criminal is smart and now I know he can do anything.I remember him saying very well that Jaque Maribe's boyfriend was stupid."How can he madder someone leaving evidence every where,that must have been his first time"
@Trufena.
Let me give you some real life truths.
1.No one owes you any happiness. You seem to be used to outsourcing it to others. Change that and give yourself and your daughter the happiness.
2. Never trust ANYONE 100%. (apart from your mother and child). Always leave benefit of doubt. ALWAYS. Agree to do something but insist on documentation even with your own sister or brother if you have one. Even something smells fishey, trust that. Our minds are very powerful. Its better to retain 100% resocurces than to be left with 50% chasing 200%
3. GOD gave you a brain. Stop bothering him too much. Leave these 'people of God" you are referring to. They are sheep and most are clueless. Learn to trust your instinct and ooh fasting doesn't solve a problem, thinking does and checking options on the table and going with least risky one.
4. Learn to count your losses at times to reduce further losses. Use the losses as lessons or treat them as School of hard knocks fees.
I know you feel down but that's the lowest you can go. take stock of your assets (physical and intangible like skills) and plan a way to make a step every day.
Wishing you well.