I did an AG wedding which in hindsight was a mistake, having attended numerous other weddings, I now realize I denied the occasion to family (especially my wife) and friends because weddings are probably the biggest family occasions.

I have resolved to pay for my children's weddings in full one day in say 20 yrs plus time when they will be ready to tie the knot.

I will create a specific fund for them once I am done with the school fees funds.

Harusi ni tatu,
1 Kuzaliwa- naked and crying
2 kuoa- clothed and happy
3 kufa- naked and crying

Why not focus on number two?

So kwanini watu wanatusumbua sana kwa hii no.2???

Nikuchukuwa vitu upesi... (ama 'talking things lightly' inasemwa aje?).
my thoughts... there are a number of things we think of lightly right now only for them to pass and later we cannot 'redo' them. let's face it - even if you reMarry it will never be as good as the first time. The first time all stars are aligned - Families, Friends e.t.c. hata after 20 years ukiamua unatuita wedding... it's never the same. tutakuja. but there is something you deny your future self by taking that day lightly. Do a wedding you can afford (i.e. don't start in debt). Scratch that itch properly haitakusumbua tena! My uncle got married zile za zamani (i think A.G.) then unfortunately was widowed like almost 35 years later and after witnessing my wedo... he saw kumbe weddings sio mbaya hiyo. When he remarried - he did a proper one. He scratched that itch. that's my take. Do it well. it's the day the world is looking at you with goodwill! and your famo is generally happy with you. your friends are proud. don't deny them. I can guarantee you - Hutajuta wedding mzuri... utajuta marriage mbaya!

Huyo ni Long Lilo kabisa!!!!! Fearing that he will be busted after the wedding