Ngwono thanx for real i can't even have second thoughts of it i can't stay with a man who doesn't respect my mum no matter how bad the situation is my mum is older than him and he should respect her even if she's a pauper as she calls her just because she has no husband! I once asked him supposing i did that to his mum enyewe he'lld never forgive me! Bt thats life its not the end of the world@willin to learn i wrote this post because i want advice i'm a very young person and majourity of skerians here are grown ups and mature i tend to wonder why you should have a problem with my post !

The world would not want to know the storm you encountered in the sea..the problem is ..did you bring back the ship???

@HM.

This would be a no-brainer were no kid involved and what you say is exactly how things are.

However,I cannot give you advice that you can take to the bank because any serious counsel can only be given when audience is given to both parties.

Note that:

1. I am not saying that I do not trust you. Just that it would not be fair to pass sentence on the man without hearing him or his representative.

2. I am not saying that I advocate direspect for elders.

Cause of the kid,I would suggest you go for professional or pastoral counseling or a mutually respected relative or friend depending on what you believe. That is,someone that you can both confide in and unreservedly pour the entire story out to; separately initially if need be. Hoping of course that he will not insult them as well.

If things do not work out even after that,then talk a walk. Confidently.

HM

The bible says we respect our parents whether they are good / bad.Any disrespect earns you a curse.Now that there is a kid involved i'd suggest before you call it quits sit down you,your mum,the man and wazees and try to iron out issues. This way everyone gets a chance to be heard. After this even if you decide to walk away your conscience will be clear.Remember our God is a God of Breakthrough.

Carygoh sori bout that these names!@ray thanx 4 your advice but it will depend if the man will come to his senses n reason out with the wazees or a guardian..but..

The world would not want to know the storm you encountered in the sea..the problem is ..did you bring back the ship???

Does she interfere with the running of the household? Do you have weaknesses that he sees clearly (as a man) but which your mum cannot see (as a mother)? There must be a reason for this - like someone pointed out,iko kitu and perhaps you are not telling it all as it is. I personally would prefer the least interaction with a mother-in-law I do not get along with....I'd steer clear of the phone,the house,etc. There MUST be something - either he feels she is running your family's affairs (by telling YOU what to do and what not to do,what the kid should wear,who to visit,who to be friends with,etc). Basically he might feel that he has married her and you are just a proxy.




The problem with equality is that we desire that it be with those that have more than us rather that those that have less