What are the other conned men and wimen doing.You need to team up and exert pressure Go to the media, get the Okiya Omtatas to demonstrate around the land.Make enough noise to reach every public, you never know it might heard by the right ears.
Also get to know where he stays with his family.Get afew guys and buy them pangas, axes, bows abd arrows, hoes and jembes.Pay this guys to seat strategically opposite his gate and keep sharpening the weapons without uttering a word to anybody.They should appear there everyday at 5.00am and leave at 10.00pm.
If the do this for two weeks trust me nobody in that house will be at peace, the wife and kids will push him to solve the matter.
But like what has been said earlier, usikonde and do not commit.
Worse things happen in life.
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