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Rank: Member Joined: 4/26/2008 Posts: 132
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This Tina amekatalia details! Was it a first date?
@extrablessed,if you and your girl both pleaded for mercy with thugs. It could go both ways depending on where you were attached and how daring the thugs are.
If in an open place where there is likelihood of a vehicle of somebody coming past in a few seconds,perhaps you may be lucky but if you were attacked by armed robbers at a secluded place it is better if the man ran away (if sensibleto do so because no man is faster than a bullet) and run for help. What would most probably happen afterwards is the thugs will scan the girls for valuables and also run because they don't know where the man went. In such a situation if the man stayed,rape is certain to just humiliate the man.
Sometimes,knowing what our society has degraded into,it is better to run because the attack could very well be a set up to rob you,especially if you do not know the girl very well.
Everyday!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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@Chic20
I would say the same thing - the guy did the right thing to escape from the scene BUT,only if he went to seek help. running home and hiding to save his dear life leaving his friend makes him a rolling Kenchic right there. isnt it absurd that you can leave someone you love or even just a platonic friend in danger and only apologise later after confrontation? shouldnt he have sort help even from the men around? or with the security guards around? Would any man leave his sister with the thugs and run home only to say he woudnt have risked his life? Hapo,if you are looking for a friend,he aint a very very reliable friend... if you are looking for a husband in him - well,i would leave that for you to judge.
Some deals are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together.
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Rank: Member Joined: 12/13/2006 Posts: 108
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scenarios of different reactions in a similar situation
1. Useless guy: if the guy ran away till home and didn't even try to find you until the following day (big time coward)
2. Normal guy:
if he was outnumbered he should have run but stayed within distance,got help & come back to the scene
3. Starring (Otero):
he would have stayed there and kicked *ss,big time and left the thugs in a heap.
4. Crucial man:
Thugs would have seen him and fled
5. Smart man:
if he was smart,he'd avoid taking you to risky places - (unless it was a carjacking) where you could be in grave danger of getting attacked. Would have kept to the safe part of the hood.
his 'make up' behavior is coz he knows he acted like a wuss
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Rank: Member Joined: 10/26/2008 Posts: 380
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The last time I was accosted by thugs,i had my sister and my girlfriend with me.. The thugs came for me because i was the man... It is hard to judge a man because he ran,unless we understand the circumstances. They robbed us of everything,and let us go.
It would be hard and difficult to leave my sister and my girlfriend and run,even i had a chance.. It would also have been hard to see sister/girlfriend being assaulted,when there is a sharp panga on your head.. do you become the hero,while you are dead? Or watch an assault on people you love yet you can do nothing? what happens if negotiating is not possible?
Lessons:
1. Avoid situations where you put yourselves at risk,even if it means not going for that date,unless you have a vehicle/taxi all the way.
2. Being a man is hard..
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 9/5/2007 Posts: 627
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This story is half told! If I was a guy, and I was going out with a girl who is bigger than me (hihihihi), and that girl is overpowered by thugs, then what the hell can I do other than run for safety and then seek help? The guy did nothing wrong unless he was the husband.
@Guka: 'Would die for ended a long time ago'! I doubt there's a man who would die for his girlfriend (note not wife) around!
Immorality: The morality of those who are having a better time!
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Rank: Member Joined: 9/7/2007 Posts: 168 Location: Nairobi
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was he man told by the thugs to leave or did he flee?
anyway,I think the man shoul dhave stayed and pleaded. being man is not just about fighting,it is also about being wise,calm in crises and thinking quickly how to safely get out of such a situation.
i think the lady got her answers rigth there; this is not quite the guy to be with. besides,i can bet it is the guy who proposed that they go out on a date. he should have stayed and bear the consequencies.
each day is a gift from God; I dont know if I will be here tomorrow; should I be,I'll make the most of it for God's glory; should I be not,pick up and keep the legacy
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/14/2007 Posts: 4,152
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This is the same girl who would later on dump you because you forgot her birthday.
life is too short to blend in
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 5/8/2007 Posts: 885
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these are all side issues...we are not like those comic book heroes ati superman,spiderman. if it was yours truly,the lady would have seen a cloud of dust as i did a Usain bolt out of there!
the lady should base her decision on one thing and one thing alone .... ako na mchezo poa ama ni futhu futhu? if he knows his way to migingo then he should be scolded for running like a pussy,then the matter put to rest.... how else but by some mind blowing xxx..... its hard to find a 'good' man so might as well keep any good one you come across
He who laughs last thinks slowest..
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/16/2009 Posts: 145
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@xtina: Just ask yourself why you need this man,particularly after he abandoned you at the hour of need. now that there is no danger,he is playing nice. Ask him what he will do were the same event to recur. Anyway............. forget that pumbavu.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/7/2007 Posts: 11,935 Location: Nairobi
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Pondi, Eti you would Bolt....??....Sasa wewe ni mwanaume ama ni long'i.....??......-:)) Yombo dhier....!! Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
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