I have been trying to look at society too. And I recall that not so long ago I envisioned society as a monster.

And then I discovered to my horror, that the monster was in my head. . .

I like that.Very true indeed.
I think one must be able to rise above the society's expectations and create their own standard,after all, we are the society.
Just be useful where you are and live a legacy.
Is my motto.

Hehe nice,
Do it, but be prepared for the outcome.
Here is what,many who did, left marks in the world yet they never 'belonged'.
That is what standing out means.Being different,not agreeing with everybody or frequenting places where everybody else frequents.
It helps one get rid of a crowd mentality,think individually and live a stress free life.
'It also takes a strong willed individual to be able to do that since you may lose a crowd.

Quest I always ask myself before I set out to do anything is,Does it ADD any value to my life so that I can become a better person or does it only make me approved by the crowd?

Rising above means learning to say No when your body,time,pocket and crowd shouts Yes.

you know tycho whenever I read your posts one person comes to mind.>Hamburglar.
You analyse a lot which is not bad.

But using that example.Found myself deliberately in places I swore I could never set foot in courtesy of friends and that is where the battle of the mind comes in.
Prob with me is, I always think about 'the after and never now.
Questions like what happens after this,will I regret,how will I be like tomorrow,
Will I be sober,will my dignity be intact and all that? Now that destroys the craze, cz if it's unpredictable,the interest goes.
I fear losing myself more than anything else.
But look here,as a man thinketh so is he.
The commander/control is your mind not body.
The body only follows instructions even though it wants to do stuff against your will.
I think they can be in harmony if the mind is strong.

una maswali mengi kwani wewe ni polisi?

But yes one can choose to love.
Losing oneself means losing one's mind and that means being in a position where one is forced to make decisions based on the prevailing circumstances,which are in many cases temporal.
It's pressure based, not guided by one's principles.

Is the future predictable? no but there can be tell tell signs of what to expect.or??

The society is not a monster.We are the society.
Our actions make up the standards, which we end up gauging ourselves against.
So what we see is our own reflection and creation.

yes it is.It just has disastrous consequences.

gain urself in losing urself? well I can't seem rem the that scripture, but if memory serves me right, I would take it to mean that one must decrease in order for God to increase in their lives.
And when that happens, the individual finds his purpose on earth.
It doesn't mean getting confused/lost and learning through it.
but hey am no pastor lol just me.

thanks

Considering the diverse characters here,I've bettered my people skills,learnt to share more and what gets clicks.