@ quicksand, so well said. i have been telling her to maximise on her self and create lots of interesting activities that make her happy. Relying on the riff-raffs as you call them will only complicate matters.
@ all, thanks for the advises given,just keep them coming as we assist each other.
She has even logged on to wazua and finds the remarks quite interesting, she may join ,

@Rahatupu What is this about mpango was kando!

@Ms Mkenya ati a man does not complete a woman! Are you saying she should engage in fornication or illicit relationships! Be careful .
Most of us have healthy bodies with various needs: food-stomach, spiritual-Creator, social-friendship, love-family/friends, intellectual, physical-sexual etc

There is a solution
She can be married by someone who has a wife or wives if he can afford.

And this is the solution to the problem of humanity - excess women. Remember what I said in this forum once. The American statistic tells us that there are 7.8million more women than men in America, who can't get husbands.
If every man in America got married, there is still about 8 million women who can't get husbands.
I'm asking all those who are boasting, what is the solution to this problem?

And Kenya suffers from the same problem.

Do not fall into these evangelists and the Western thinking who fool you around and they do not have a solution.

I can give you a few points worth of consideration in an effort to clarify the wisdom of polygamy and when it can be used:

Let's talk about logic
Do you know by nature male and female are born in equal proportion.
But if you ask any paedritician, a doctor of the children, he will tell you that the female child can fight the germ and diceasees better than the male child.
So at paedritic stage alone, there are more female than male.

As life goes on, due to smoking, due to alcohol, due to accident, due to war, more male are dying as compared to female.

Today in the world, there are million more women than the male.
Only in some countries like India, the female population is less than the male population.
Do you know why? Because female foetuses aborted after sex determination tests but also through murder of newborns.

@karqui, your level of activism in this post leaves very little in doubt, I wish you all the best.

Nice one. Many self-declared loneliness doctors are as fake as waganga kutoka pwani. They will come promising strong shoulder to lean on but vamoose after 'Shock and Aweing'. Let her focus on guiding her teenage kids at this phase. I would also advise her to play an active role in church. She will never be lacking in an activity to do.