Some ladies are quite funny.
How many men are thinking the same way,
Their cry however is about golddigging women who go mia after they are done digging.

There is an equal no of single men with kids who need comfort and company as well
I doubt they spend all their time in clubs cz just like her, their routine is strict and tiring and they are more likely to be found working from home.And yes they do domestic work cz they love their kids.

Let her cast her net further and stop zero grazing.She will be shocked by the demand.

And karqui you took a wrong approach,you cant force things on people if it goes against their nature.
There is a time for everything and I think she is doing a nice thing looking after those kids.I am sure those boys appreciate that because she s playing both roles.That is no joke.
Many kids hardly see their mothers.

Encourage her by telling her that she needs to be grateful for the time spent on her kids.Its is not 'wasted time'.I guess those are the sacrifices that come about with raising up kids.

I wouldn't cry if I knew I was doing a good job as a mother.I can sacrifice my entire life for my kids till they are mature to look after themselves.

The epitome of deceit!

I would never live my life for the sake of my kids (and I would never wish my kids to live a life I wasn't able to live)

We live once and so once the kids have known what to place in their mouths to be alive then they are good to go!

You sacrifice a huge portion of your life (even its entirety) for your kids only for them to live the life the way they want it and disappoint you!
My kids are human beings who can should live their God given life, just like eaglets.

NEVER EVER!

Wee wachana!

Fact is when you decide to have kids there are sacrifices to be made.Esp if u had them out of wedlock.
You cant have ur cake and eat it!
9 and 14 yrs mehn! that is when the clay needs moulding.
And yes,they will soon walk out and blame you for not having been a good parent after all u sacrificed
But their time will come to be parents.
It's just a cycle of life.

By the way si awapeleke boarding??? if she needs time for herself?
At times you just have to do things by force.
14 is big and so is 9.
At 8 years I could cook for a village and till a 5 acre farm alone.
Thanks God for boarding.

i suppose the decision to take up my offer rest with the OP(original poster) and not you

Perhaps it is the wrong timing for her. Any man who will check in will look at those kids and think 'Hmmmm,...so this one wants me to chip in with their upbringing, kulipa fees, food etc ..why should I raise another man's kids?', he will play nice till he gets laid and then bail out.
On the other hand, when the children have finished college, and its just the woman, potential nice dudes will let their guard down ...

She also needs to adjust her thinking a bit (in other words really lower the bar), attitudes she had when single and unencumbered will not help much.

AIRPORT DIGGER.... umekuwa guest all this long halafu ukiona an aiport in distress u quickly register and try to hit the cookie jar...

Haupati NG'OOOO

Many questions unanswered..if she was peeping earlier why didnt she come out to 'defend' herself and tell us her qualities. A picture is worth a thao words,how does she look like-plain,average,smoking hot? There are some late 30's,early 40's ladies with or without kids who give our 20 & 30 something yrs ladies serious compe.

^^ true.They touch on emotions and trust people to react to such.
Thread inakuwa na so many pages. smh.



You see?? this is what gives rise to wamboi mbugua kind of scenarios.
I thought the post clearly said she is financially stable?
Shes got everything going on for her kids and she only needs a good time?
Take them to boarding.They aren't kids anywmore.
But no,I guess her problem isn't time so no need to.

Me thinks she holds the key to unlocking her misery.
Many women set very high standards for themselves because they have achieved and sacrificed too much.
I don't know if it's justifiable or not because again I wouldn't encourage one to go search for a loser.
She just needs to be more accomodating and seek in the right places.Broaden her search even beyond borders.
EAC is big.

Searching in clubs to me is a NO NO.

Wapi serikali isaidie?

I think nobody is honest with this lady and I am going to be very honest the best she can find at the moment is a man over 35yrs old who is either broke broke or with a bunch of kids and fairly broke so make peace with that first.

Secondly and here is how I drew my conclusions, take me for example, I am a single(not married) guy, I have a 6 yr old kid, I am fairly paid and will be 30yrs old by the end of the year why in the world would I date a 36 yrs old woman with kids when I can find a 22 yrs old? Ever seen a woman flash a 35 yrs old tit? it is old and ugly sorry to say but, I will advise you to find a broke man who want part of you money, atleast you'll get regular sex and someone you can push around because to be honest every single woman in their mid 30s have problems no man can deal with.

For all you women in your mid 20s and no boyfriend you should start worrying right now because by 27yrs few men will be knocking!

Lastly... can I get your friends email or phone?