@marine,

reality check|: your investment in this descendant of Eve has been huge

Ponder this: 7.5 yrs equal to 2,738 days splashed on one person represents huge emotional,financial,psychological investment in her,not to mention the lost opportunity cost of not having tried other relationship(s) that would have been potentially beneficial to you.

No relationship of such duration will leave a person unaffected in one way or the other. Remember,how this r'ship plays out will determine your mindset about future relationships.

So dont' just ditch the relationship without a proper understanding of why she is behaving like she is. Maybe YOU are the cause. Maybe all of a sudden YOU haven taken a fancy for underwears emblazoned with Ocampo's image while she strongly prefers a local tribunal. Or she has come to the reality that hata kama wewe una roho safi,lakini sura yako ni mbaya. It could be anything! You guys talk,sometimes the issues are so minor you would be amazed it caused beef at all in the first place.

But 7yrs means you must know her fairly very well (no man understands women 100% yet) and you should quickly know whats happening. Sort it out dude - there are too many sad love songs,dont add to them!








..there's nothing,absolutely nothing really,that I can't do if I put my mind to it.

She has realised that you are unlikely to commit and is exploring other options.

Has she asked questions like:

- where do you think our relationship is headed?

- you have not told me what you want...

- do you love me?

If she has,you are in problems. You need to restrategise,if you still want her.

you surpassed her expectations..? nay! that is just a solace..

but lets say you exceeded...

she is behaving otherwise coz another dude outshined you...!

efforts bwana...! pull up your socks and may be she will sing your song once again...


When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly....

@Moibutu

Thanks. Emotional investment is normally very difficult to retract. After almost 8 years of not considering possibility of break-up i would have a torrid time hooking up with another lady. I bet age has played it's role coz when we met she was just about 18. I have seen her grow and change but did'nt expect such a drastic change. Nowadays we rarely communicate though we talk.

If ever i am to consider another relationship i would not look at anyone below my age.


The mind is everything. What you think you become

Justin Gatlin,Tim Montgomery,Donovan Bailey,Leroy Burell. Do you hear of these guys these days. Well...........Zama zao zilipita. What about Usain Bolt. Have you heard of him lately. Time has a way of turning things. You cannot be great for ever. Seize the moment and when it is passed,let it go.

Weusi wa nywele za mshtakiwa zaonyesha ujinga alio nao