@New member
I wish i didnt have to be harsh on you..but clearly...allow me to
Firstly,That man has never been serious with you,his actions speak very clearly and he obviously used his commitment to the church to fool you and many others. Your alarms went off a long time ago,but you chose to ignore them..and here you are!

At 31,You should not even be thinking of aborting. Teenagers are allowed to think of abortion because other than not having a source of income or even some savings to support the baby,they have to put up with unforgiving parents and am sure at your age,you are way beyond all that.

Why are you so obsessed with marriage and walking down the aisle..and all that? Chic,the baby should be your number one priority for now. Would you rather get married to your obviously unpredictable man and forever live in misery,or would you rather focus on a happy life with just yourself and your baby?What is your priority?

My advice,Forget abortion...have the kid and most importantly,Forget that useless man. Move on! I know of many women who have had children through mistakes just like yours,and they moved on with life..and later on met the man of their dreams who loved them and their kids regardless of their past.

BTW,In your next relationship...ALWAYS use condoms!! You might get pregnant plus bonus ya HIV. Never let your emotions and libido blind your judgement

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't..

@New Member,

Karibu SK.What a story i have just read!!. U have done the right thing in coming out to ask for advise from people thelikes of members of SK.Here u will find all the help you need.Am Praying for You from this very moment.

All that has happened has happened,and u cannot reverse them.But this doesnt mean that u are done..U are still very much valued and loved.Do not even think of terminating the pregnancy that u are carrying,life is precious,God given and only God knows the Why bit of why things happen the way they do.

U dont have to protect someone who obviously hasnt changed one bit...if u abort,he wont touch you with a ten foot pole coz he'll run..thats his way of wanting to keep his slate ''clean'' to enable him destroy other ladies' lives.Do Not Stay quiet with this,to have his reputation safe...u might be helping him too.

God looks at the heart of man,and to say ud want to appear ''holy'' -By aborting ...in the sight of men will not be to ur advantage.You and your unborn child are here for a God appointed reason,and as He lives,ul attest to that one day.

Ma sister,God Never turns His back on anyone....Ask Him for Forgiveness in sincerity,and all that has happened will be erased,and ul be forgiven.God has Great plans for you,to give u a hope and a future..as He says in His word and He will be faithful to see you through all these.

So yes,u will find smone who will love you with the kid and ul find happiness,just dont give up.Move on with your life,take care of ur baby,and continually thank God in ALL situations in your life.......U mentioned u were a Xtian,ad advise you to talk candidly to your pastor about all this,dont u worry about what will be said by anyone....and u will have your Head lifted up,and His Glory bestowed upon you.




For just as through the disobedience of the one man the many were made sinners,so also through the obedience of the one man the many will be made righteous.
Romans 5:19

@newmember

That you kept yourself for 30 years (and I suppose growing up in Nairobi?) That is impressive and says a million words about you. Have the baby and then learn to cross and close your good legs until your inner faculty inform you that the right one has come along- after that you may begin countin the scores and this time make sure the balance sheet actually balances. This I say because,once you get your baby and are single,you become more attractive and will get many more offers,most of which will be valueless.

You also sound so sad and so down. You need to work on this so that your spirit and esteem are always up where they belong and that you wear a genuine smile every moment. work smart at your workplace and social scenes halafu hiyo ingine wachia Baba.


We tenda wema kisha wende zako. Usinipe macho ya kutarajia shukrani!!!

another thing be prepared to be judged. there is no escape. remember to ask God for strength. He will help u.
Btw obama's mom was 18 when he was born so u never know.

You have a right to your opinion.
Allow me mine!

Hi new member. I'm truly sorry for what has happened to you. Now to your issues,it's sad to see that your b/f played on ua emotions probably because he thought at your age you were desperate to get married. Since what has happened has happened,you cannot undo the past,you only have the future to look forward to. First things first reconcile yourself with your maker,forget the dude and concentrate on your baby. Talk to your mum she should be of great help at this time. ABORTION is a NO NO. This is just a season in your life and with positive atitude you will get through it. Take heart my sister........

I will praise thee,O Lord my God,with all my heart: And I will glorify thy name forever more. Psalms 86:12