Aki Wazuans are so unhelpful

All I can advise is move on and as Muganda implies do not expect anything. You cannot undo the past. Yu cannot choose your brothers or sisters or step brothers or sisters. If there is a good relationship then well and good keep it. If there is none do not go looking for it. If people come looking for you treat them the way you would treat any prospective friends that is if they are a good influence then you keep them as friends if not wachana nao. The trap you do not want to fall in is to let yourself be attached to people who bring nothing but misery in your life just because ni watu wenyu.

When Augustus Ceasar became Emperor of the Roman Empire one of the first things he did was define the boundaries of the Empire. Previously leaders would just conquer and keep expanding. As an adult you need to define the boundaries of your family according to your understanding, relationships and resources. This is not easy. Know who is in and who is out. You may have good friends on the inside and some blood relatives on the outside but make sure it is a decision you can live with.