I am not talking about opportunists here. I am talking about a genuine person who falls in love with another when either of them is in a horrible and unhappy relationship

P.S. I meant to write "Snatch than share" in my earlier post...I've made the correction

@Quicksand,I find you posts to be insulting since you are making an assumption that a man is not a rational person who can make prudent decisions and its only a lady who makes the decision to snatch or love a married man!!

Problem is you will not know you are sharing, by the time you do her kids are the same age as yours and probably the guy has pulled a Kajwang on you. so you have been sharing for 19 years, what happens?

As for the kind of snatching you are talking about, you are better of with a jungu, he will say 'Honey, I fell in love with someone else', straight face. Alafu unajipanga.

Kwisha maneno!

I like what @Quicksand has said. Makes a lot of sense. This is how to gauge whether he or she is really in-love with you.

So, If you leave him/her alone and, later on, they still choose to leave their partner, then that is Karma averted, right?? Ama??

All in all, I wish people (especially Men) could stop geting married for all the wrong reasons only to suffer baadaye

For every wedding taking place there is a person being made widow/er,divorcing etc life is unpredictable.

It's a never ending cycle which makes me believe that ours is a recycling society full of people with life's past experiences.

Anyway,a man who's seen it all,been through it all in every aspect of life is 100 times better being in a relationship with than the fresher who's months or years from life's experiences.
The maturity to handle complex matters has not been cultivated by experiences because he's still learning how to walk and hold bottle.

However the 2 entering a union with past issues should be compatible physically,emotionally,financially,spiritually,to sustain such a relationship because if not handled with wisdom,they can ruin an otherwise beautiful union.

So when you have a 20 yr old marrying a 45 yr man,It leaves me wondering if she's stable enough to handle his past issues ( only immature folks refer to them as garbage because that which they call garbage builds up character and wisdom and instills responsibility in a person) Now those characters are what girls like the subject admire in a man.

All men are dogs.....albeit different breeds.ION,funny how a thread degenerates in this great Republic.

@muriel, it has been a very interesting year, this old machine handling all these Wazuans, it has not been easy. But I'm glad and happy for all the questions and challenges from all of you.

Let me tell you a story about a young man who reaches the age of 25. In that village, there was a woman, a successful businesswoman, boss-lady, who was 40 years old and had been widowed twice. Then at that age of 25, the man chooses to marry the woman, who was 15 years older than himself and a widow.

The man remained with his wife until he reaches the age of 50. And we know that the age in which men would have strong desires towards women would be from young age. So for him to remain married to her in a very happy marriage from the age of 25 to the age of 50 is so amazing.

Then unfortunately the woman, his wife, passes away! The man remained as a bachelor for about 2 to 3 years. Later on he married another widow, who was also quite old at age...

To cut the long story short, this man is none other than Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). And the woman was Khadijah bint Khuwaylid.

So to me, I think with the right intention, clear expectations, communication, respect and commitment, a relationship will work regardless of age. But the age must not be too wide, for example a man of 70 years marrying a girl of 22 years is a bit too out of place.

IMPORTANT: Please people, don't turn this into religious argument. I'm just giving you an example, an amazing love story of a man and woman who lived years ago, with an amazing.