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Rank: Elder Joined: 4/22/2010 Posts: 11,522 Location: Nairobi
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klan wrote:I can tell you, money is secondary to the gals. What they need most is respect and recognition. We have never changed one 6 years now. paying less than 8k Well in... possunt quia posse videntur
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,237 Location: Vacuum
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AlphDoti wrote:Bigchick wrote:That turnover of househelps is high.
Do a soul search and find out what you are not doing right. (Am not saying you are to blame).If you can get feedback from those who left what they did not like about working for you.That might help you.Sometimes we may think we are doing the right thing but the other person does not see it that way.And like in all relationships communication is key.
Are you miss perfect in house cleanliness? Taking care of a young one is a challenge and so sometimes issues of the house being clean get lost along the way.
If the gal is good with the baby ie feeding and cleaning then deal with issues of the house separately.Help where you can and dont fuss about it.
For me good source is a rural gal then you train them.
Good luck. I echo what @bigchick has said. This has something to do with you, but I'm not saying you're doing something wrong. Only that I think 90% of househelp respond to the treatment she gets from the mother of the house. Treat them like your own child, food she eats, clothes, bathing, shoes, etc Also, I think presence of a father has a positive impact on the general behaviour of the household. I am not trying to judge you about your being single because maybe it is not your choice. But generally single mothers face a lot more challenges in raising children to handling maids. of course, the father should have no role as far as the househelp is concerned, but just the presence of man makes the girls somehow obedient. There is something about presence of a man in a house.I have seen this in my own house. For example there was a girl who raised two of our children until 4 four year old. She stayed with us for almost 7 years. Eventually we put her in college and now she is married with a job! Others who raised the other children relatively stayed long, at least 2 years. And I never used to talk to any househelp directly, unless when sick! I never used to enter the kitchen if they are in there. And we never paid the money you have mentioned. Maybe it was cheap those days. IMPORTANT: None of the maids who stayed were relatives. And none of them were from the bureau. @Bigchick and Alphadoti are very bad people,I think you people gossip and bad mouth your friends #theguiltyarealwaysafraid# If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/11/2012 Posts: 5,222
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Swenani wrote:AlphDoti wrote:Bigchick wrote:That turnover of househelps is high.
Do a soul search and find out what you are not doing right. (Am not saying you are to blame).If you can get feedback from those who left what they did not like about working for you.That might help you.Sometimes we may think we are doing the right thing but the other person does not see it that way.And like in all relationships communication is key.
Are you miss perfect in house cleanliness? Taking care of a young one is a challenge and so sometimes issues of the house being clean get lost along the way.
If the gal is good with the baby ie feeding and cleaning then deal with issues of the house separately.Help where you can and dont fuss about it.
For me good source is a rural gal then you train them.
Good luck. I echo what @bigchick has said. This has something to do with you, but I'm not saying you're doing something wrong. Only that I think 90% of househelp respond to the treatment she gets from the mother of the house. Treat them like your own child, food she eats, clothes, bathing, shoes, etc Also, I think presence of a father has a positive impact on the general behaviour of the household. I am not trying to judge you about your being single because maybe it is not your choice. But generally single mothers face a lot more challenges in raising children to handling maids. of course, the father should have no role as far as the househelp is concerned, but just the presence of man makes the girls somehow obedient. There is something about presence of a man in a house.I have seen this in my own house. For example there was a girl who raised two of our children until 4 four year old. She stayed with us for almost 7 years. Eventually we put her in college and now she is married with a job! Others who raised the other children relatively stayed long, at least 2 years. And I never used to talk to any househelp directly, unless when sick! I never used to enter the kitchen if they are in there. And we never paid the money you have mentioned. Maybe it was cheap those days. IMPORTANT: None of the maids who stayed were relatives. And none of them were from the bureau. @Bigchick and Alphadoti are very bad people,I think you people gossip and bad mouth your friends #theguiltyarealwaysafraid# You have said it.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/17/2009 Posts: 3,583 Location: Kenya
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 4/1/2009 Posts: 1,885
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AlphDoti wrote:Bigchick wrote:That turnover of househelps is high.
Do a soul search and find out what you are not doing right. (Am not saying you are to blame).If you can get feedback from those who left what they did not like about working for you.That might help you.Sometimes we may think we are doing the right thing but the other person does not see it that way.And like in all relationships communication is key.
Are you miss perfect in house cleanliness? Taking care of a young one is a challenge and so sometimes issues of the house being clean get lost along the way.
If the gal is good with the baby ie feeding and cleaning then deal with issues of the house separately.Help where you can and dont fuss about it.
For me good source is a rural gal then you train them.
Good luck. I echo what @bigchick has said. This has something to do with you, but I'm not saying you're doing something wrong. Only that I think 90% of househelp respond to the treatment she gets from the mother of the house. Treat them like your own child, food she eats, clothes, bathing, shoes, etc Also, I think presence of a father has a positive impact on the general behaviour of the household. I am not trying to judge you about your being single because maybe it is not your choice. But generally single mothers face a lot more challenges in raising children to handling maids. of course, the father should have no role as far as the househelp is concerned, but just the presence of man makes the girls somehow obedient. There is something about presence of a man in a house.I have seen this in my own house. For example there was a girl who raised two of our children until 4 four year old. She stayed with us for almost 7 years. Eventually we put her in college and now she is married with a job! Others who raised the other children relatively stayed long, at least 2 years. And I never used to talk to any househelp directly, unless when sick! I never used to enter the kitchen if they are in there. And we never paid the money you have mentioned. Maybe it was cheap those days. IMPORTANT: None of the maids who stayed were relatives. And none of them were from the bureau. you guys are too fast to judge. high turn over of maids at times is not dependant on how you treat them but on several other factors as well eg they get lied to by estate swenanis who can only 'marry' them if they leave employment, get better job offers, get genuinely married, get their heads turned by other maids who convince them they can get better deals etc
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/8/2013 Posts: 4,068 Location: At Large.
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mkenyan wrote:AlphDoti wrote:Bigchick wrote:That turnover of househelps is high.
Do a soul search and find out what you are not doing right. (Am not saying you are to blame).If you can get feedback from those who left what they did not like about working for you.That might help you.Sometimes we may think we are doing the right thing but the other person does not see it that way.And like in all relationships communication is key.
Are you miss perfect in house cleanliness? Taking care of a young one is a challenge and so sometimes issues of the house being clean get lost along the way.
If the gal is good with the baby ie feeding and cleaning then deal with issues of the house separately.Help where you can and dont fuss about it.
For me good source is a rural gal then you train them.
Good luck. I echo what @bigchick has said. This has something to do with you, but I'm not saying you're doing something wrong. Only that I think 90% of househelp respond to the treatment she gets from the mother of the house. Treat them like your own child, food she eats, clothes, bathing, shoes, etc Also, I think presence of a father has a positive impact on the general behaviour of the household. I am not trying to judge you about your being single because maybe it is not your choice. But generally single mothers face a lot more challenges in raising children to handling maids. of course, the father should have no role as far as the househelp is concerned, but just the presence of man makes the girls somehow obedient. There is something about presence of a man in a house.I have seen this in my own house. For example there was a girl who raised two of our children until 4 four year old. She stayed with us for almost 7 years. Eventually we put her in college and now she is married with a job! Others who raised the other children relatively stayed long, at least 2 years. And I never used to talk to any househelp directly, unless when sick! I never used to enter the kitchen if they are in there. And we never paid the money you have mentioned. Maybe it was cheap those days. IMPORTANT: None of the maids who stayed were relatives. And none of them were from the bureau. you guys are too fast to judge. high turn over of maids at times is not dependant on how you treat them but on several other factors as well eg they get lied to by estate swenanis who can only 'marry' them if they leave employment, get better job offers, get genuinely married, get their heads turned by other maids who convince them they can get better deals etc Count me out on judging. What I have given are various possibilities to look at.Yes what you have said is also true thst they get married but at the rate of 1 every 3 months..... There is nothing as comforting as knowing your house and kids are safe and comfortable when you are away courtesy of a good house gal. So I repeat as she looks for one she needs to find out if she is contributing to the turnover.. Love is beautiful and so are those who share it.With Love, Marriage is an amazing event in ones life time, the foundation of joy, happiness and success.
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/4/2010 Posts: 118
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Thanks watu wa kuwaza. Will fikiria the advice offered here: soul searching, get a live-in man, be more compassionate, pay more, treat like you child, respect. To be honest, am picky when it comes to cleanliness so.... Will reassess and badilisha things.
As for judging a single mom, its probably the same way i judge fat mamas in the first instance. 'She eats too much, sits all day, doesnt do any exercise, and somehow expects to be fit and in-shape.'
Well, that's what you get without empathy, without asking the too intimate question 'do you try get some exercise done?', to which we'd get answered 'my family has a history of weight issues due to hormonal imbalances. i've not had chips in a year...etc etc' Yup, we dont really care about being personal with the majority of people, its better to keep prejudices and assumptions and stereotypes for most people, and leave the empathy to your close relations and friends.
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