mkenyan, because she lied abt her past, because she still maintains contact with her X, kwanza its her who looked for the X on FB. n for like 4 days consecutively they were chatting really hard. She said she didnt have her number, discoverd she does but its not saved under any name. They also chat on whatapp

@ Commando.
Pole Sana for the discovery. My advice comes thus
One, be calm for now, don't let emotions run over you. Two, get to know really that she still has a thing with the X. I say this coz, as a man I know you had a r/ship before marrying her, chatting with an X does not necessarily mean they are back to basics again.
Three, I know the trust is broken, esp now that you know you weren't the first to land on her. But the quiz is, Will you get one Virgin one this time. To me your page with her began the day you met, what happened before then may be ignored as at now, coz am sure everyone has skeletons.
Confront her with the facts you discovered, see her reaction, she may open up and tell you her past...marriage has a lot of compromises my brother.

Wazuans, things are thick! Been married for 4.5 years with two kids, 4yr and 9mo old. I have for sometime suspected my beta now worse half of mischief. She is a bit secretive with her phone. But i have been patient. I had the opportunity of landing on her first, but we didn't move in together until when she got paged.

To the real meat now, on my house laptop i installed a key logger because she loves being online. Sasa jana night siku 40 fikad(She is away for a visit) I decided to review reports of last month on the key logger randomly and what i found shocked me. Am really regretting and not sure our marriage will survive this. She was landed on by her X(she had convinced me i was the only one who had ever had the opportunity) plus procured an abortion while in campo from the same X, think just before she came to me. Am angry, feel betrayed, used, useless, too mad,blackmailed, till i shed tears. This was jana 10pm. Haven't been able to sleep, my eyes are red

I really love my kids(thinking DNA now), n my love for her was growing(married because i had scored) My issues are
a. How do i confront her? i fear ill kill someone when she returns
b. How do i trust her?
c. They have been chatting lately with the X who is married. Reviewed the chats also, but were just general stories. The X is a church guy, and with actions of pastors lately...wacha tu.
c. What are my options, i cant get over this....

How did you just believe that you were the 1st.....you didn't know how to tell? #Justasking!!!!