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Mukiri wrote:murchr wrote:Mukiri wrote:Hogwash, is it? You might have a case against the west, however a new born might have little or any say about its name. I highly doubt a youngster tormented by his peers about his name, would want to see things your way. Nor would a man emotionally traumatized.
The one thing that the man is reminded, everytime his feminine name is mentioned, is that his mother has sex out of wedlock (God forbid it was rape) and chose to remind him and the world, every day of his life! And whats more, such a parent is bound to be bitter at men, would probably keep the child away from his father or any father-figure.
Question, once this Nairobi Half-life star blows up, will it be a case of 'same script different cast' with Wanjiru? You must have undergone a really bad childhood if you were not a bully in sch. You fail to understand that your name can have a totally different meaning to another set of people. There is a soviet band called KINO, ofcourse you'd never buy its music. What are u? a test-tube baby? Who was not born of a woman? How sure are u that the man u call your dad indeed is your father? Many men shoot blanks and women out of love go out to get eggs so as to cover their mans shame, so how sure are u that you aint one of them? Truth is many men are liars and deserters. Walk around in Kenya and you will come across so many men who impregnated young girls with the promise to marry them but did not. Others could not handle a woman and a child and they just walked away and vanished on realizing that she is pregnant. Does that man have any right to be called a parent? Its even worse if you are to name your child after him, the lady might just end up hating his kid. You need to respect every single parent because relationships are not guaranteed. Thank God you had a constant father figure in your life, and don't look at others like trash, children born out of infidelity. I know so many men who took up their mothers name and are a big success. Afterall, there mothers brought them up, would u rather they were named after a man they had never seen? My childhood was actually great! And I'd love other kids to have a great one too. But you speak volumes about what your mother did. Not to personalize this, let her name him after her father or grandfather or a man who's character she admires. And more importantly stop getting children out of wedlock! You exhibit alot of psychological torture just by expressing yourself. Why would you assume that one with a surname after the mother/woman is not happy because of their name? The African wise men said, anaye mjua baba ni mama. Tafakari hayo next time you go blowing your horn everywhere. You might marry a woman who after a while might think you dont fit her class na uwachwe. Who lied to you that all marriages last forever. There is a very big diff btn a marriage and a wedding. Have you ever imagined that the so called grandpas or uncles could disassociate themselves with this fatherless kid? Clearly you live in utopia. "There are only two emotions in the market, hope & fear. The problem is you hope when you should fear & fear when you should hope: - Jesse Livermore
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