Rank: Elder Joined: 7/23/2008 Posts: 3,017
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@Bishop. You have 3 young children! I'm I missing something? why do you want a wedding so quickly then Forget about spending any cash on a wedding,invite your parents,go to your wifes church and ask for the church to formalize your union like the way they are doing it @ Eli's church. Afterwards you can invite close family and friends for a very modest reception at your house. You can then keep up the monthly savings and set up some good investments for your family's future. I guess if you can't win with facts,you can always pen bile-laced,xenophobic rants to distract everyone. "The purpose of bureaucracy is to compensate for incompetence and lack of discipline." James Collins
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/12/2009 Posts: 152
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now...now..now...
bishop.....i thot we were talking of a young man...lo!!!
Take a loan for a wedding...????..moreso with 3 kids already..
...thats absurd....!!!!
don't worry....be happy
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/16/2009 Posts: 145
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There is an easy and cheaper way out @Bishop: Save the 10K a month for your children's education. It won't be long before they require case for their fees. And pls make sure they are not canidates for FPE if continue thinking the way you are now.
Then when you hear of a mass wedding,join in and you would have achieved your dream. If you local church does not call one in the next two years,worry not. Mr Moon from Korea (or is it Bonke) is coming soon
Happiness is not a right - except for children. You won't be happy if you think too much. The search of happiness is one cause os sorrow.
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/17/2008 Posts: 294
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Bishop come on! Getting a loan,to entertain people? To make merry? Taking a loan so that people jienjoy and you are left paying through the nose? Well,its your cash,as for me? Take a loan to entertain people? Never.
Now that you are not a young man,you have tasted the sugarcane unlike some young men who are so eager to get married! I would advice you to avoid wasting cash. Organize a small wedding. Just one Sunday afternoon,after the church service,get the thing underway! You will save on :
1. Tents and Chairs - can cost you upto 70,000.
2. Venue - Can cost you upto 40,000
3. Decorations - can cost you upto 35,000
4. Transport - can cost you upto 40,000
You'll only need to pay for
1. Food - 40,000
2. Video and photography - 20,000
3. Drinks - 10,000
4. Miscellenious - 10,000
Your wedding can be as cheap as 80K. Invest for the children. The test of manhood is seen by how well you raise your children,give them education,feed them,give them basic needs and secondary needs etc.
Nobody cares how big your wedding was. Nobody even remembers! As soon as the food you gave them is out of their body,your wedding is stale news. Nobody wants to remember! You'll be a bore telling them how great your wedding was: Ofcourse they saw!
But you shall remember the LORD your God,for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth,that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers,as it is this day. Deu 8:18
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/22/2008 Posts: 851 Location: nairobi
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Common bishop. You have already eaten the goods. Legally speaking you are already married under customary law. Just talk to your local pastor to preside over a formalisation ceremony during one of the sunday services,followed by a small pilau and soda session at your current home.
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/17/2008 Posts: 478 Location: Old Trafford
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Bishop,check if your priorities are in good order. As a parent,i'd advice you prioritize investin in your kids education. Once this is well taken care of,plan the weddin of ur dream weddin n sweetmoon. EG;My folks did theirs last year n twas da most extravagant weddin ave ever been to. He rode in the longest pimped limo in the country n from ma small siz they got a 50k gold rings. Every thing else was out of the ordinary without worryin about any debts. Am sure the day added some extra years to their already 60+
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/24/2009 Posts: 11
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Live long Impunity,u r right...
bmw
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/31/2008 Posts: 7,081 Location: Kenya
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/17/2008 Posts: 294
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sasa Bishop,umeamua aje?
But you shall remember the LORD your God,for it is He who is giving you power to make wealth,that He may confirm His covenant which He swore to your fathers,as it is this day. Deu 8:18
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/31/2008 Posts: 7,081 Location: Kenya
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...quick fix: Ever watched Indecent proposal? Just give me your wife for one night,come collect her the following morning,together with a check of Ksh 1million!!! ...and all your marriage financial woes would be a thing of the past.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 8/4/2008 Posts: 2,849 Location: Rupi
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Whatever decision you make,dont listen to people telling you to have a big wedding,telling you to form a committee ati they will support you. Those same characters will contribute 500 or 1k and will suggest a budger of 300k. All the best and wishing you blessings. Lord, thank you!
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/15/2008 Posts: 16 Location: Githu
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Wedding [eli]
Monday,May 25,2009 08:13
sasa Bishop,umeamua aje?
Not yet decided,but thanks for all the advise.
As one said it is me and my life
Thanks
Take Risk & Never Regret !
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/22/2009 Posts: 2,449 Location: Africa
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From the last post i would think Eli=bishop?? 
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/15/2008 Posts: 16 Location: Githu
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Wedding [Shak]
Monday,May 25,2009 11:12
From the last post i would think Eli=bishop??
Does it mean Shak=Bishop???
I wanted to quote Eli and that means Eli <> Bishop neither Shak<>Bishop
Thanks
Take Risk & Never Regret !
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/22/2009 Posts: 2,449 Location: Africa
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How is it that someone has used my user id to post a reply? Sk admin uko na kesi ya kujibu
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/6/2007 Posts: 1,177 Location: Nairobi - Kenya
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this is truly a crazy world,(read Sunday Nation) how can a single wedding cost 50M....? flaunting?? @ bishop make it simple... don't borrow to finance it... at the end of the day what matters most is the love the 2 of you shares... When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly.... When you hear what I say, you will not understand. When you see what I do, you will not comprehend
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Rank: Member Joined: 9/14/2007 Posts: 11
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i agree with most sk members here. I am firm believer that people do a wedding they can afford themselves without involving their friends who have other important issues eg paying school fees for their kids and bro/sisters. Even if their friends have excess money to give away,it will be prudent to give to good charities than to donate for a lavish weddings. But the real problem is with our ladies,they want a good wedding,i ahave been fighting with my girl about this issue. I want something very small like pastors office and she wants a wedding and i am not going to spend all of my saving for the wedding and i am not going to allow her to spend her money also,because after we get married it will be our money.
And dont get wrong,i am not mean at all,but if i have only khs 500,000 has my life savings at this time,i am not going to spend this little money for the wedding,then i start at zero again,no way brother.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/27/2008 Posts: 3,760
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@kamaa,I would without any hesitation whatsoever spend ksh 50M on my son/daughter's wedding. Of course Ksh 49M would be on my present to them - a villa in Runda.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/6/2007 Posts: 1,177 Location: Nairobi - Kenya
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@ GG now you... but i got you.. When you run so fast to get somewhere,you miss the fun of getting there... Life is not a race,so take it slowly.... When you hear what I say, you will not understand. When you see what I do, you will not comprehend
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