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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/7/2007 Posts: 11,935 Location: Nairobi
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When you entrust him/her with your personal finance situations,he/she will like to keep track of your spending....That means war.If you love your peace,keep this things to yourself and also keep off from his/hers. Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/17/2008 Posts: 23,365 Location: Nairobi
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Njung'e wrote:When you entrust him/her with your personal finance situations,he/she will like to keep track of your spending....That means war.If you love your peace,keep this things to yourself and also keep off from his/hers. .....siku za wazee ilikuwa hivi, from guka himself!!! ..."Wewe ni mtu mdogo sana....na mwenye amekuandika pia ni mtu mdogo sana!".
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Rank: Member Joined: 2/5/2010 Posts: 273 Location: NBI
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Njung'e wrote:When you entrust him/her with your personal finance situations,he/she will like to keep track of your spending....That means war.If you love your peace,keep this things to yourself and also keep off from his/hers. Hapo guka amesema!! Although each one of you will manage their own Finances, Communication is key so that you update each other on the projects/investment/funds available. it will also allow both of you to discuss and formulate a way forward on items like budget etc..
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/9/2009 Posts: 2,003
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wasee wrote:Njung'e wrote:When you entrust him/her with your personal finance situations,he/she will like to keep track of your spending....That means war.If you love your peace,keep this things to yourself and also keep off from his/hers. Hapo guka amesema!! Although each one of you will manage their own Finances, Communication is key so that you update each other on the projects/investment/funds available. it will also allow both of you to discuss and formulate a way forward on items like budget etc.. This is it! 
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/16/2009 Posts: 257
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My partner is a spendthrift and i a saver how do i entrust her with all my financial information?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,328 Location: Masada
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Njung'e wrote:When you entrust him/her with your personal finance situations,he/she will like to keep track of your spending....That means war.If you love your peace,keep this things to yourself and also keep off from his/hers. I cant agree more. Sa sa twangoja input ya @wendz...leo amekawia sana Gikomba  Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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Impunity wrote:Njung'e wrote:When you entrust him/her with your personal finance situations,he/she will like to keep track of your spending....That means war.If you love your peace,keep this things to yourself and also keep off from his/hers. I cant agree more. Sa sa twangoja input ya @wendz...leo amekawia sana Gikomba Gikomba kulikuwa na matope sana leo.... lakini nimefika. Well, my thinking is not very far from @Njung'e's... but i would say, it all depends on who you have in your life.... I would expect that he/she does not use your card (whether he/she knows your PIN or not) without informing you unless that is the agreement.... In some occasions, its just inevitable to reveal to your partner your PIN because you could be stuck out in the bundus and you need some things moving while you are away.... now, what she/he does with the card at that time or later after the knowledge of your account status determines if you can trust them or not. This is not an issue that can be generalised... But if you know your spouse is the type that will breath down your neck to explain the last coin and how you spent it, then may be you need to think how to relate.......
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2007 Posts: 8,776 Location: Cameroon
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Agreed with wendz. LIMITED EXPOSURE depending on the type of exposee n on need basis. TULIA.........UFUNZWE!
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Rank: Member Joined: 9/12/2008 Posts: 436 Location: illobi
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Thank you guys for your insight..... Seems i was right to trust her.... but I have learnt. Next time i need yo put a limit on how much she should spend..... 
A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/19/2007 Posts: 2,047
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This one is never easy. Not married but i think the best approach would be to trust your signficant other until they give you reason not to.
I agree with Masukuma,if you sort out the financial part,everthing else kinda falls in place.......
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/24/2007 Posts: 1,805
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Mwambie achore budget and you support her where you can. Hiyo maneno ingine sahau my friend. Lest she asks you' ile twenty bob ilikuwa kwa mfuko yako iko?' But she should know all your major investents. Actually take her there and introduce her. Giving her control is another matter. It reminds me of a guy I was visiting in the UK. Tuko juu ya Story then the wife interrupts ' the kid wants to sleep so go sing her a lullaby!!!! And the idiot left me there hanging!!! It was 1 p.m I Think Therefore I Am
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 12/9/2010 Posts: 894 Location: Nairobi
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bwenyenye wrote:Mwambie achore budget and you support her where you can. Hiyo maneno ingine sahau my friend.
Lest she asks you' ile twenty bob ilikuwa kwa mfuko yako iko?'
But she should know all your major investents. Actually take her there and introduce her.
Giving her control is another matter.
It reminds me of a guy I was visiting in the UK. Tuko juu ya
Story then the wife interrupts ' the kid wants to sleep so go sing
her a lullaby!!!! And the idiot left me there hanging!!!
It was 1 p.m
@bwenyenye ur friend is ABK, @all if after living 2gather 4 sometime u know what type ur partner is(thats if u r sure he/she is responsible), give her the pin and atm. this reminds me of a friend who doesn't allow the wife to drive the family car.me think this is not fair and healthy.-mavi ya kuku. Don't wait for the Last Judgment. It happens every day. ~Albert Camus, The Fall, 1956
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Rank: Member Joined: 7/29/2009 Posts: 217
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famooz wrote:This one is never easy. Not married but i think the best approach would be to trust your signficant other until they give you reason not to.
I agree with Masukuma,if you sort out the financial part,everthing else kinda falls in place....... Agree...no need to hide things from the mom or dad of ur kids. But if its to happen, one must ensure a close friend or relative knows the hidden info, & is liable to give info incase of a tragedy ...hold me in your arms, like that Spanish guitar… all night long!!!
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Rank: Member Joined: 11/18/2010 Posts: 194 Location: Kenya
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What if the partners agree to spend 15% of their individual incomes as each pleases. Then the 85% iwekwe kwa meza. I guess such an arrangement would ease tension ya mulika mwizi
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Rank: Elder Joined: 11/19/2007 Posts: 2,047
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Foreman wrote:What if the partners agree to spend 15% of their individual incomes as each pleases. Then the 85% iwekwe kwa meza. I guess such an arrangement would ease tension ya mulika mwizi hehhehe @ foreman,the 15 % you quote here is not enough even for his side dish:))))))),halafu put in the spending when EPL is on and you realise why finances remain a landmine!! But well,i agree ,everyone needs to have some money set aside which they do not need to account for and every couple needs a financial plan....
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/23/2008 Posts: 3,966
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There's marriage and there is co-existing. If there's no total trust between you and your spouse, you know where you fall. Luck is when Preparation meets Opportunity. ~ Lucius Annaeus Seneca
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/23/2008 Posts: 3,966
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Njung'e wrote:When you entrust him/her with your personal finance situations,he/she will like to keep track of your spending....That means war.If you love your peace,keep this things to yourself and also keep off from his/hers. I wouldn't follow this advice. If God gave you both long life, there would be no peace if you both kept things to yourself. Too much suspicion, distrust, etc, protecting what is yours (forgetting that God joined you two and made you one, so in essence your protecting what is yours from yourself)and to think that this process would go for like 60 years? Peace is what my spouse and I have, I dont hide anything from my spouse. And am at peace. Luck is when Preparation meets Opportunity. ~ Lucius Annaeus Seneca
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/23/2008 Posts: 3,966
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Your spouse is not your neighbor. She sleeps next to you, when you are so vulnerable in sleep. And you still get to wake up everyday. What will it profit you to hide stuff from her? Its easy dealing with loss of money than loss of your marriage...unless you have no idea why you got married in the first place. Yesterday you hid your pay slip from her, today its the PIN/ATM, what will do tomorrow? And the day after that? You may find yourself making a career out of it. There's beauty in being open. Luck is when Preparation meets Opportunity. ~ Lucius Annaeus Seneca
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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Jus blazin, umenena kama wazee ishirini, heko!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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Jus Blazin wrote:Your spouse is not your neighbor. She sleeps next to you, when you are so vulnerable in sleep. And you still get to wake up everyday. What will it profit you to hide stuff from her? Its easy dealing with loss of money than loss of your marriage...unless you have no idea why you got married in the first place.
Yesterday you hid your pay slip from her, today its the PIN/ATM, what will do tomorrow? And the day after that? You may find yourself making a career out of it. There's beauty in being open. All i can say is, 1. You are one of the lucky few BUT you do not even try to understand other people 2. You are still in your honeymoon attire 3. Most of your friends are still single or are still in honeymoon attire 4. You do not have older friends who have been married for long (and either have their stories or know of some who have had issues) 5. you are living in utopia.... trust me, when i was young, i used to judge those who behaved differently and especially in relationships. After living long enough and hearing all sorts of friends with all sorts of stories, i know much better that, though you would want to disclose everything, sometimes there is more peace in some silence. And especially, if that includes accounting for every single coin he/she spends.... I'd agree with Foreman to some extent. In my view, decide who does what in the house depending on the income levels, everyone honors their part of the bargain, when there is an investment coming up, you pool the resources if you have to.... if one does not want to be party to that investment and wants to put in a different place and you can afford on your own, you invest there.... its for the family in any case.....
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