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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/25/2007 Posts: 1,574
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@Mchanganuzi: I hope the kids were not there when you banged the laptop and smashed the phone against the wall. If you are having disagreements, keep them away from the kids. Kids retain memories of such events and fighting at home traumatises them greatly (nightmares, bed-wetting, poor performance at school, social problems, suicide, serial killers etc). Two 'B's often lead to a broken marriage: Bank and Bedroom. You say you give her everything she needs, so I'm guessing financial stresses are not present. But are you "giving it to her just the way she wants it"? Wewe ni kiboko yao? Set out to correct the world's wrongs and you will most certainly wind up adding to them.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/6/2008 Posts: 3,586
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deadpoet wrote:Much Know wrote:I want to enter that institution this year, tell us more please before I present application papers to go with bad c. v. Ask yourself what role you'd like to play - Prisoner - or - Prison Guard. I intend to propely play the role of Head of the Family,(no sharing duties, payslips, e.t.c) pipi will be Deputy and minister of home affairs, if that is very clear from the outset, i don't expect nagging, and quarells over money etc sivyo? Infact i am more concerned with smaller issues such as meals, bedroom manners in marriage and so on. E.g farting in bed, mastylo e.t.c. Am i wrong? This attitude may be the reason for delay but i think it is important for a good marriage. Ras Kienyeji Man
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Rank: New-farer Joined: 1/7/2010 Posts: 67 Location: NBI
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Much Know wrote:deadpoet wrote:Much Know wrote:I want to enter that institution this year, tell us more please before I present application papers to go with bad c. v. Ask yourself what role you'd like to play - Prisoner - or - Prison Guard. I intend to propely play the role of Head of the Family,(no sharing duties, payslips, e.t.c) pipi will be Deputy and minister of home affairs, if that is very clear from the outset, i don't expect nagging, and quarells over money etc sivyo? Infact i am more concerned with smaller issues such as meals, bedroom manners in marriage and so on. E.g farting in bed, mastylo e.t.c. Am i wrong? This attitude may be the reason for delay but i think it is important for a good marriage. @Much Know Clearly you have had some bad experiences.... Lolllllessst!!!!! I think Ive broken a rib... But out of courtesy for pipi....if this does indeed happen, perhaps its better to try to ignore? LOL
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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A woman isn't a 'helper' as house keeper. She is your door to growth and enjoyment of life through conversation and action.
She must be free and strong.
@deadpoet, has presented a grim picture that marriage must always be a prison.
It's not true. If there's wisdom in the house, a wife is a precious gift.
Otherwise why torture and constrain yourself to someone, or a prescribed number of wives?
Children? Get a surrogate mother. House keeping? Hire someone to do it. Sex? Keep options always open.
There's another reason for expecting the best of your wife and marriage. Good parenting. Chesterton put well when he said that one can only get to the child through the mother. (Though the matter of Maryology is not intended here). (But I can imagine digital mothers taking care of children. So the wife must be really free and productive.)
This, one can affirm without being married, or ever being married.
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/7/2012 Posts: 180
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Mchanganuzi wrote:I will never visit the institution called marriage again, never. Full stop. Could i be right or its just a matter of time? i realy dont know. I will soon comment... Eagles don't flock, you have to find them one at a time.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/25/2007 Posts: 1,574
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. Set out to correct the world's wrongs and you will most certainly wind up adding to them.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/11/2012 Posts: 5,222
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essyk wrote:Quote:If you get a woman who doesn't nag you, be worried, be very worried. Mukiri sleeping.Proverbs 21:9 Better to live on the roof than share the house with a nagging wife.  Some men nag too,differently though. Well, maybe 'nag' was a strong word.. How about 'verbally motivates and corrects' you? Coz if she goes silent, there just might be someone else... or she's completely written you off. @essyk, false?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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Angelica _ann wrote:marriage sucks but you have to be strong for the kids and put a positives image for the society. many a times you wish they were dead or just disappeared. How long have you been married?
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Rank: Member Joined: 4/28/2011 Posts: 213
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Lolest! wrote:Angelica _ann wrote:marriage sucks but you have to be strong for the kids and put a positives image for the society. many a times you wish they were dead or just disappeared[/b]. How long have you been married? If it has reached here......i think you are better of on your own....besides it would be more satisfactory that they be alive and see you happy,hiyo utakua umemuwai 10 nil,well thats my plan 
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Rank: Elder Joined: 12/7/2012 Posts: 11,939
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Lolest! wrote:Angelica _ann wrote:marriage sucks but you have to be strong for the kids and put a positives image for the society. many a times you wish they were dead or just disappeared. How long have you been married? we are doing 17 years this year august. i come from a very strong tukutendereza family background so leaving is not an option! In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins - cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later - H Geneen
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