@Swaleh
thats a WHITE lie... you want to say all the girls i see getting married to whites is because of money or does it mean no mixed race relationship would be genuine? I dont think so. There are people who get into such relationships purely out of love and not money... how do you know,may be the gal even has more money.. Such may be there,but dont generalise,its unfair.
@Carex
Its not a stupid question. In SK,we ask all sorts of questions.... What I think you would need to know is her
culture - their dos and donts,Are you able to accomodate some of the cultural ways she wont give up - e.g if you marry from bukusu community,you cant great your mother in law by hand... if she insists on this,are you willing to go by it? (well this was just an example) Are you agreable on what you can compromise and what you cant? for example,when visiting her parents,you wont walk in when wearing just a vest and a short - well,personally i wouldnt allow you to meet my parents like that even if its not 'cultural' as such. Also get to know the rites of marriage in her community. they are varied.
her beliefs - religion and the like,are you compatible? Just like any other relationship whether black/black or white/white
her family - we africans are proud of our associations and our families which are mostly extended families,does the family accept you,how you relate with her family is important.
her personality - is her love genuine,is she a gold digger,is she principled - principled african women will not bend all over to accomodate you simply because you are a white. They will respect your differences and appreciate you for who you are but there are some values she will hold on to especially depending on how she was brought up - look out for the qualities.
her age: I hope you are taking up a mature lady,not an 17-18 year old girl.. if thats the case,if less than 18,its illegal,if 18 then be ready for the drama that any man would expect because she is still growing up.
And most importantly,if you decide to go for it,dont hurt our gal,ok? And take good care of her.
Was it @Carygoh who was organising a wedding for her friend who was getting married to a white? she could be of much help.
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