Thanks,I appreciate the members & admim of Wazua for allowing me to be part of the family.

First and foremost, I have blundered in the past which has led to my depression. Am not reaching out to you for further Insults. It’s only because am human and people do make mistakes that leads to painful experiences.
This is my story. Am a single mother of one child. We had disagreement with my Babby dady which was a matter of principles concerning abortion and we decided to stay a part. So we didn’t marry at all neither has he ever seen his daughter .So I was hurt badly and due to that I took around 5 years to get into another relationship. I didn’t hide anything and told this guy that I have a child. I also told him that am not interested in having sex outside marriage since I don’t want a second baby outside weldlock since am born again. All the he accepted .He said we shall do the Introduction first and then wed if possible.I was so happy thinking that my dreams to finally settle is coming true little did I know that the r/ship was a fraud. This guys was just provoking me to develop feelings for him so that he can take the opportunity to con me of every single thing I ever own on earth including my own child.Ke took advantage of my kindness.
It has take 3 years since we met at work place, so we ware friends first and we used to share a lot.He first took my car.I was hiring it out.I ask him to sign an agreement but he kept on dodging. I Even drafted the document myself but kept on promising that he will sign in vain.That was mistake number one.He paid the first month very well. Then the second month,he told me that he had a sister who was critically sick with cancer and she had to me amputed on the left leg. I slightly doubted but when I checked out the name of FB,I saw the girl and indeed she was sick.So after cutting the leg,he told me that the parents have refused to take her to hospital. That their grandfather died of cancer and warned them never to try to treat the disease as it will only make it worse.So this guy kept on crying in the office that the sister is going to die on his watch. So he went for a court order since the siz was around 18years to force parents to allow the girl for treatment. So he started sourcing for funds. I sympathized with the situation a topped up bank loan on his behalf. Blunder number two.On his side,he promised to give me a plot in Kitengela in exchange.I even went and saw the plot but things were happening very first because he had planned to con me from the word go.Infact,the day I was giving him the cash coz he told me that his account has blocked due to some loan he had taken to treat his sister,I had arranged with my lawyer to draft an agreement for us and let him sign all the documents but shock on me.He lied that this cash is to be sent to the Insurers to renew medical Insurance since the patient had been taken to Italy for treatment.So he promised to sign later that he is going no ware.So when he came back from “Italy” is when he proposed to me.He told me that all his friend have ran away because of the problems he has and am the only one left,so he would wish that we marry since I mean a whole world to him.

However,our earlier agreement will remain intact and once he is settled,he will give me the title dead for transfer.I was so stupid to have believed this lie.He lied that currently the documents are locked in his house since he has a lot of rent arrears due to financial constraint resulting from expensive Cancer treatment.My job ended for some reasons and be also left the work place for other businesses.Upto to now he still claims that the documents are locked which is a lie.I also came to learn that he also conned another lady in the same manner.Thouh the sister passed,but he also lied that he has cancer and has been going through operations like 5 times which is not true.He has never allowed me to know where he lives or his people so tha Issue of Relationship I wrote off long time ago.But I have been trying to hold my peace if I can recover anything all this time but the chances are minimal.This was just a conman but I realized to late.

What can I do fellow Wazuans? Am stressed beyong.Jobless and losing all that I ever worked hard for

Try read more. It's not even a 5 min read. Pole kwake. Kumbe women eaters ni wengi!

Wah! Sorry for all your troubles. Think about your kid for now. I know it is hard but your kid means more than anything else. Look for something constructive to do to keep yourself busy and sane. It's hard to be conned by someone you once trusted. Yours is a simple case of being conned. Women go through so much in the hands of men na bado mungu anabaki kuwa mungu. You are alive take time to celebrate.
I bet you are still young, live and let live. I pray you are strong and you will come out of it stronger.

Pole, all will be well.

But I am just wondering, when someone cons another person on grounds of "CANCER" assuming its false does that money really end up benefiting the guy really? I am a firm believer of "Life is unfair, but nature is fair..."

How would describe your relationship with your father?

Today, you are the sum total of what you have gone through since birth.

Most of your interactions with men arise from a template created from that you and your father have had all along.

Sit down with him and honestly describe what you are going through.

Otherwise, you are doomed to a life of pain. That includes your child and grand children unless you fix this.