hi,
Marriage… is it the end of freedom… or the start of a lifelong adventure for two?
What are the pros and cons on marriage? Or what marriage means to people?




Financial freedom is our birthright,rather than the 'slave walk' of the Monday through Friday grind.

@ mkristo..that was rude.
I had this negative view of marriage...my parents are separated..it seemed too unrealistic..imagine waking up to the same person for eons..unless one patner dies when ur bored of him/her..that way you can always have new spouses without offending God...
However,my views have now changed....life is what you make it...marriage is what you make it....it's good and bad..how you deal with it makes all the difference.
But with on going reports.. how 50% of marriages are ending with divorce..and the number is rising..i mean..a whole,whooping 50%!!! na hizi stories about how new HIV/AIDS cases (50% of new cases)are involving married couples do not make the situation any better......it makes some ladies not to keen on getting married..it is easier to get a kid by the man who has the qualities you want..that way you get a trophy kid without the baggage of a husband.
Anyway,all said and done,i am for marriage,i will submit to my husband as the bible say we should...clean.iron....even wipe pee off the toilet seat (hahaha)....cooking is the bane of my existence but i will do it for my kids....
I am for marriage

First there was white power,then black power,now there's no power!

Wazi Xtina,

That's why God created man and woman! I am for marriage too i believe it's how one takes it. I am looking forward for the adventures that come along,living wid somebody u have met and dated for like 2 years from different cultures,language,xters et al then bringing forth children by God's will,aiiiii i believe tis interesting!!! Can't wait. God saidia.


For me to live is Jesus Christ,to die is gain

@xtina

I am sorry. I think what I said must have hurt you and probably somebody else.

I should say,do not fear getting married because of someone's experience that was bad. I agree with you that life,and marriage for that matter is what you make it.

May be what I can tell all of you is that marriage is challengin because of one thing,couples do not want to submit to each other. The husband thinks he is always right,so does the wife. Marriage is an agreement,wich means that the two of you need to always agree on one thing. The husband should at times give the wife benefit of doubt,same case to the wife. AGREEMENT IS THE KEY WORD. that way ti will be hard for anything to separate you.

What I've also discovered is that marriage is very rewarding,especially if you learn to live with each other like I have described above. You wife/husband is your best friend. This is the person whom can feel vulnerable without fear of anything. However many marriages fall short of that cos the other person does not want to create an atmosphere where you will feel free to express yourself without being judged.

I've been married for five years now,not so many,but all these things I have experienced.

That's why I said,the best thing is to get married,but just know that you can make it or break it. It's all about how you handle it



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@ngwono.... i could have sworn i saw your contribution on the hospital discussion... you were asking about maternity costs... ehh ama it was for 'information purposes only'?

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