About 2 years ago,my small wedding was around the corner (actually exactly a month).I was newly posted in this area;my job involves interacting with a lot of people.I had become acquainted with the locals.
A lady/girl came up to me one day (and a few days afterwards) with the story that she had gone to the doctor with some pains and she was asked when was the last time she 'engaged'.She was told that the pains were as result of not engaging for a long time (she had said 2008;since separating from hubby)
She said she feared her locality so much and she had observed me for a long time and i had been a 'good boy'.she put it bluntly that i was to be the medicine that evening (there was this confidence in her eyes that she would get her way).
Now this is where things become elephant. i had always suspected the worst coz her baby looked always sickly.A few days later a local told me not to 'joke in this place'.I started yapping how i cannot even try,not that kind of person etc etc (self righteous attitude).I got really embarrassed when he said 'sisi tulijikulialinia kitambo'(direct translation.
What amazes/shocks me up to today is why would someone knowingly ... another person? would she have suggested protection? This is the reason i believe there is always a spirit behind every happening coz some things defy logic.

@mpobiz,true wazua language i.e a friend,anyway with arvs your friend should go for the test and he need not worry.

Landings are one of the favorite weapons of the enemy.

As you fear HIV, know there are worse STIs that kill you faster.

Hepatitis and HPV among others. One can live for long managing HIV, Hepatitis finishes one's liver while HPV gives you crazy cancers. Worse still. you can get HPV even with condoms.

With the close proximity of sexual contact, one is susceptible to air borne and skin diseases including TB, which of late is mutating to be drug resistant.

Chill till marriage and after marriage be faithful. Nikubaya

This things happne, i once landed bilas for sometime. then we lost touch. after like 3 years, the next thing i see is the phoro in the orbituaries. it forced me to attend the meetings and funeral service to know cause of death - like it was something different. all is well cause that was like 23 years ago na damu haijaganda!

was a big lesson to me, nowadays all the fun is in zero grazing!