Since there's a wedding vibe goin round today let me seek your advice lest i mislead someone. I am soon to be the best man in my pals wedding and find myself somewhat in a dilemma.His fiancee is expecting in a few mths time and they are hurriedly planning a wedding before then..the dude is in biz and comes from a well to do family and the girl had previously claimed to be of the same social status and had even lied that her parents live in an upper class neighborhood but turns out they stay in eastlands. She also works together with her family and claims to be earning good cash but is broke most of the time.The truth came out when he made the first visit to the parents hse and her excuse was that the upmarket hse was auctioned early this year due to a huge unpaid business loan and she was too embarrassed to tell people and that most of her monthly income is used to pay off another loan the parents took. What i can confirm to be true is the ladys involvement in the family biz. I've adviced the guy to stall the negotiations and reconsider a long-term relationship with this girl since she cant be fully trusted..what else is she capable of lying about?! He claims that he doesnt care about her parents financial status and that its not a big deal but to me thats besides the point. Fact is she's a big fat liar!

@Rock - You are right.

The parent's or lady's financial situtation is not a big deal. Pesa ni kutafutwa hutafutwa. So broke or rich, no big deal!

But I agree with you on the trust issue. The guy needs to find out if the lady can be trusted. She could be lying through and through!

For starters, the kid they are expecting might not be the dude's. The small "sisters" and "brothers" might be her kids. The three uncaptured years on her CV, she might have been at Langata Womens Prison.

The dude needs to take time and investigate. This is a LIFE TIME decision!

If it turns out the lady was just ashamed of her financial status, they can talk it over and he forgives her - and also encourage her to be herself and proud of who she is and whatever she's got.

If it turns out she is a serial liar, he should bolt like Usain.

The kid - DNA, and if the it is his, he supports the kid regardless of the other details.

......ope hauna interest.....

@ rock must all the 'poor' and dishonest gals hail from eastlands yawa!

Anyway since your friend has already enjoyed the fruits and has results to show for it, let him take responsibility for the bi-product.

Marriage under the circumstances outlined is a no no because of starting on the wrong foot. Now that eastlands has failed him, let him try westie et all

Kwani Eastlands kuna nini?? Can't you see banks, organisations, gated communities moving to Eastlands? That is one rich neighborhood!

eastlands inategemea...kama ni wa D head for the hills

@Maichblack - true dat @ mkeiyd - it bothers me coz am his pal and can see better on the bench @kadusi - ? @essyk - hope so too @king g,jus blazing - location not the main issue here. The guy has always wanted a child and she keeps telling him that her family will never let him see the kid if he doesnt commit. He also desperately wants to have the baby carry his family name but IMHO he should let it go and if she's sayin the truth bout hidin the girl (we know) from him then he can go to court-ama?

@rock. This could be a classic case of what is called “kewekwa box”. And if somebody decides to think with the small head, then he should be ready to accept the consequences. Whether it is you or your friend who is involved , at this point, my advice is that you should consider the plight of the oncoming child because it is innocent in all this. As Wazuan’s have previously cautioned, ukikula ni lazima ulipe. Pole sana, though, these things happen to men.

@mkeyid..what are real and genuine friends for,if my friend cant try and correct me when am doing something wrong then whats the point of him or her even being there in the first place.

@Rock...I agree with you,being honest and open in any relationship is key if that doesnt exist and something comes out of the bag later,feelings tend to change,the guy will always have questions in his head every single day.

Now that you mention it, their two stories seem to dovetail.