Property:
non-issue here as what you bought before the commission of marriage is yours. However, if she modifies the building in any way even by adding just one brick to the roof (& she can prove it by receipt ya hardware ya mtaa) then you will have, as they say in legal parlance, have been royally f*cked coz she now becomes a 50% co-owner in the eyes of the law.
- at the moment contribution to acquisition of property is a key thing the kenya judiciary looks at and it has to be proven for the court to award someone a portion of it. Even with the new katiba, these precedents will not just be wished away to protect both men & women from gold diggers
family:
- forget that cowdung thingy ati you support the kid @ arm's length coz mkono ya serikal ni mrefu anyway! if it can be proved you have paid even for packet of milk for your son that is considered admission of paternity/acquired parental rights and you will slapped with a maintenance order faster that you can scream moi ishia

wife:
you clearly did not discuss your expectations and family plan at the time of courtship.Maybe you are the type whose dates were in loud smoke-filled bars with blaring music so you never got to really listen to her. And her to you. So you both just partied.Chickens have come to roost.
- age is the main factor to u/standing your lines of thought.
she's 23 and girls at 23 just wannna have fun - or chop books, party and advance their careers. she be no different,man.
Conversely, a 35 yr dude marrying wants a family pronto coz time is running out. He wants get this woman straight from the altar to the maternity so that he doesnt somesha his kids with pension monies.
A woman after 26 starts thinking along exactly the same lines - i.e of populating her nest because she feels her biological clock is ringing so loudly it can be heard in the next town.
so technically there's nothing wrong with her, or you!
Just that you are both in diff. age groups that have different expectations!
Give her a few yrs to come to your side of belief - it is not too late for you, after all you got a 5-yr old kihii. And besides, you can use this time to evaluate her further.

Wewe.... sssshhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Wendz is no longer a spring chicken by the way, but she has a rear which resembles that of a sumptuos spring chicken.
So yummy.

Iko sida!!

I can't agree more!