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#1 Posted : Sunday, July 25, 2010 3:16:24 PM
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This can happen prior or after marriage.
What is your take on this ?
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youcan'tstopusnow
#2 Posted : Sunday, July 25, 2010 4:40:09 PM
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If the wife earns more than the husband then that should mean more responsibilities for her. i.e. she will be expected to pay for holidays, and things like that. Women have a tendency of 'hiding' their money
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kadonye
#3 Posted : Sunday, July 25, 2010 5:17:57 PM
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This is not a problem, IMHO.I have seen it work with a couple who are my close relatives.On the other hand I've seen a couple where the lady earns peanuts but gives the man no peace coz of the shortage of finances in their family.I don't see why a guy should avoid a lady who is doing better financially.Even if u marry a woman who earns less than you, she could stil end up surpassing you in future
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muganda
#4 Posted : Sunday, July 25, 2010 5:31:34 PM
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Hmmn, interesting... Is the problem the fact that his/her money are separate yet they are united in marriage? So as @kadonye says, in this day and age, they could choose to be happier because they are more financially secure, can take care of their kids more, and rekindle the fire of youth in romantic trips. While purposing to work harder together, coz how quickly fate turns the shoe to the other foot!

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Magigi
#5 Posted : Sunday, July 25, 2010 7:19:23 PM
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...works well in situations where the husband has no inferioty complex. I have seen such situations wher the husband drinks silly and beats his higher earning wife...
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tkzee
#6 Posted : Sunday, July 25, 2010 10:26:15 PM
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The question is is it the money that makes up the marriage or the people?The world has changed both men and women have equal opportunities.
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Wendz
#7 Posted : Monday, July 26, 2010 9:25:02 AM
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Magigi wrote:
...works well in situations where the husband has no inferioty complex. I have seen such situations wher the husband drinks silly and beats his higher earning wife...


Well said. As long as the man accepts that it is ok for the wife to earn more and it does not change his position as the head of the family (and the woman also realises that more money does not turn her to be the 'head' and command everyone around) then yes, it is possible to have a happy family irrespective of who brings home the bacon. Majority of my gals at work earn more than their husbands and their families are intact. Problem arises when the man starts feeling inferior or worthless or is made to feel so.
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kamau@capitalcredit.co.ke
#8 Posted : Monday, July 26, 2010 11:04:23 AM
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There is no problem provided the money is used well for the well being of the family,But the man should try to work extra hard to bring more to the family.
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MaichBlack
#9 Posted : Monday, July 26, 2010 1:06:53 PM
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Absolutely no problem! As @magigi says, what spoils everything is the man's inferiority complex - 90% of the time. There are some questions your [caring] wife/girlfriend will always ask about your whereabouts, habits, buddies, how you spend your time/money etc. When the wife/girlfriend is earning less, men seem to tolerate/understand/deal with such scenarios better. When the wife/girlfriend is earning far much more than the hubby/boyfi then it's a totally different story - everything is misconstrued. It's all psychological and it's the men more at fault.

I actually believe men should do all they can to help the women in their lives be more successful. If she wants to go for further studies, assist with the fee, pick her up after [evening] classes, fill in the gaps she lives at home - be the primary parent [assist kids with homework etc.] as she studies etc. If your main hold on your wife/girlfriend is your money, then you are living a very sad life indeed.
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theman192000
#10 Posted : Monday, July 26, 2010 4:11:57 PM
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Wendz wrote:
Magigi wrote:
...works well in situations where the husband has no inferioty complex. I have seen such situations wher the husband drinks silly and beats his higher earning wife...


Well said. As long as the man accepts that it is ok for the wife to earn more and it does not change his position as the head of the family (and the woman also realises that more money does not turn her to be the 'head' and command everyone around) then yes, it is possible to have a happy family irrespective of who brings home the bacon. Majority of my gals at work earn more than their husbands and their families are intact. Problem arises when the man starts feeling inferior or worthless or is made to feel so.


@Wendz, I'm surprised that you would advocate for violence against women so as to lend credence to the topic under discussion.
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