hii kizungu ya Mwafrika is really complex. maybe hana ubaya.

Sample this from Mwafrika31 posts......
Nini hii? {especially for guys who read "read with us"}
...cave-neanderthal mentality....
...coherent agitator....
...develop great haughtiness & a disdainful arrogance..

@wazo, at the end you run into such subjective and bogus generalizations about women, marriage and children though you seem to try to start objectively. You write about women “It remains irrelevant when it comes to their choice of men. They still want the one with more”. Who doesn’t go for the best, Men? Employers? Who doesn’t go for the best? I suppose you expect a beautiful woman to go for some weakling average looking broke fellow out of “love”. In any case, other than logic, we as a society men included socialize women (and men) to go for the best from the stories they are told as children to the way everyone disapproves a broke, average looking, average intelligence fellow picking the finest of women and vice versa, a man picking some old, average looking woman. Again, “Marriage is a monopolised variant of prostitution,with hell to pay for the man if he goes out.If she does,she leaves with your money anyway”. I think you are a casualty of your personal judgment, well you have some point but you do go overboard. Why do you value marriage and relationships only in terms of money? What “value” does the woman bring to the deal? Are you able to “value” social aspects of life such as family beyond money? Are you able to assess a potential wife’s traits in the absence of money? I doubt. We know pre-colonial Africans would even socialize their women way before money appeared to go for the hard working man, if you know any economics you will know that money is a medium of exchange that represents the “product and wages of human labor”, so? By the way pre-nuptial agreements are available to offer a degree of monitory protection to a man who come to a marriage very well prepared money wise.

You ask “Are you a married man?What do you envision happening btwn you & wife incase you ran low on cash for a while Can she do for you with HER money,what you do for her with yours if she got more than you?”. Am not married, I personally prefer a woman whom sees me first as a provider/protector to one who sees me purely as a lover or carries a mostly romantic “soap opera”, “sitcom” idea of marriage, as I would consider her unintelligent no matter how much she claims to love me and the key is to prepare yourself in every way to live that way and that is thinking with the big head in my view. If you loose your job and become broke or earn less, it’s an issue of bad preparation or unrealistic hope even expecting her to turn around and become the provider, you should think of that before marrying (though some guys will be fortunate to get a women who will provide in bad times don’t expect to be one, they are exceptions). Naturally, most women will fall pregnant and be more useful as a mother (quite a job), that’s the thinking that should predominate your thinking. No matter how educated, intelligent and hard they try to work, their focus will remain the kids, and I think it is better to support and exploit that natural power of mothers than demand an “equal” input from a woman in terms of providing (including for you) when you know at one time her spouse (you) and kids will occupy her mind the way sex perennially occupies ours.

I live in the USA it happens all the time. its a common thing my friends have gone thro the same shit.

Much know,'value' family more than money?!Well,she will make family withe cash-ladden fella she 'loves ',won't she?The woman takes whatever value you may have had away,she doesn't bring any with her,unless she got something no-one else does. . . Highly doubtable.

When I said all you people want is the man with more,you did agree,so no argument with you there either.

And no,never was,never will allow myself to be some tarts carpet,money or not,I'll pass.

If you want to know why it is women who fall pregnant and not us,ask God,I didn't make you that way,He did,so refrain from going on how much of a job it is unless you were impregnated by rape and avoided aborting as its immoral.Otherwise,I suspect you totally enjoy getting impregnanted anyway.

Lastly,I have sex for what it is-an otherwise good ferk.Do you feel guilty when hungry?I don't,neither do I when I perennially feel like sex.

And your marriage(if ever) is still a type of prostitution-question is,is your husband your pimp,or your customer?

By your leave. . .