Wendz wrote:Mwafrika31 wrote:@ wendz
Since you are not trying to finish me like akina mukiha & aemathenge I'll be as reasonable as possible.
Yours is a very logical argument that thoroughly appears to make sense. However, life is stranger than fiction. Kenya is in a steep moral decline as the harvest of hell starts, the result of all that garbage on tv & internet. This wickedness is aggravated by the social class system. That makes the well off treat the less well-off, like dirt. All this to say that there is no restraint in the search for money. Everyone's trying to get the chance to look down on others.
The incidents I describe are the norm here. I have so many others I could give. Many young men import the females because it is next to impossible to marry a Kenyan lady here. Majority of these ladies remain single for life. This is because they 'panda ngazi' when they get here & forget their mother tongue & develop great haughtiness & a disdainful arrogance so deep, that they never associate with other Kenyans. Because in Kenya if you move up the economic ladder, you get to despise anyone lower. So the men import. But once the imports arrive, their spirit seems to change drastically & a mean streak emerges. This only happens to the women.
The situation is one of deep hatred between the sexes here. Its sad but true. The latest scandal is one where a church couple split when the woman kicked the man out (its possible here), after he lost his office job. I personally know of only one successful import/marriage & the lady was from western.
@Mwafrika31
I think I am getting to understand you now. Am I correct to say that your audience was more of the guys in the diaspora than those in Kenya? Well, what you state is very true and we cant hide under the sand that things have not changed. If you ask majority of the guys in towns, nairobi especially, and who have been brought up upcountry, they would rather engage with a lady from 'upcountry' even if working in nairobi than those born in nairobi... well, i know this may rub people the wrong way but its a perception that we have that those born in towns are more 'liberal' hence harder to settle with - whether that is true or not is something i can not state but i do understand where you are coming from. women liberalisation started in those countries and then arrived first in our cities etc. Problem is, some equate being liberal to being rude and disrespectful.
But trust me, you can find a fine kenyan gal.... come back home and dont import her..... she might also become 'liberalised' too.... Ask @Mukiha - he wouldnt trade his kenyan lady for anything.
May be those who are marrying now are lucky... in some 30 years to come when liberisation hits some villages in kimwarer and Enangiperi then things will be alot worse..
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@ wendz
My audience was anyone looking to settle. I wanted to make the point that class stratification + mental colonization are destroying the family unit. The pressures to have lives like those portrayed on tv put men on the defensive since they cannot provide the millionaire lifestyle. No one wants to be poor, but Kenya is an indigent & idiotically run country, so most people will never become well to do. This treachery in relationships, for me, has to do with a crisis of expectations that young people brought up on American movies have.
This crisis will lead to a revolution if a coherent agitator appears on the political landscape & takes advantage. While we await that, the crisis will manifest in materialism, social prostitution, rampant crime. A similar situation existed in late 40's Ghana. It led to the collapse of the thuggish British colonial dictatorship.
When I was in Kenya last, many people had American accents than me! That crap on tv displays a life that Americans don't even have. As for telenovelas, Mexico is poorer than Kenya. Mexicans are very despised here and coz they're illiterate, they do the dirty jobs.