So, since hii maneno ya akoblow ikuje, i normally drink at my local pub to avoid getting into trouble with mututho. I normally take 5 whitecap at any one time and me being a gentleman, I normally buy the lady who is serving me a drink as a tip. Of course I know the ladies choose to take the 250 bob at the counter instead of taking the phombe.

Now, these ladies at the pub have become too much and are now abusing my generosity. Whenever I go to the pub, even those who are not serving me on that particular day expect me to buy them a drink. Juzi my bill included some extra 2,000 bob, this being 2 guaranas each for my 4 lady waiter "friends" who have served me in the past and now expect me to tip them whenever i go to the pub. Yaani kwa bill ya my 5 whitecap at 1250, ninaongesewa 2000 bob to total 3250. Yes, they have given me a BJ in the past, but should I be besieged at my local?

Dear brother
It's time for you to look or find another "local" especially now that you have admitted that you have had some affairs with one or two of the maids.
Infact most of us have a rule, once you have been done the deed with one of the maids, you keep off the joint untill you hear of a mini or a major reshuffle.
You are treading on dangerous ground not only financial but also on your physical well being by remaining there.

Hear, hear.

In today's world of financially and mentally empowered women, using money to attract them is a sucker move. I'm 1000% sure you are referred to as "kale kajinga" in their circles. Wise men know that today's women are only phased by the three Ms: Mistari, Mazolz and Mjulubeng. Money should only be in the background of your interactions, never used directly to plead your case.

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