Show.me one who is NOT in midlife who has married a househelp/egghawker/Barmaid etc.

We have agreed midlifers lower their standards or should we say give up in life and settle for anything in a skirt?

And for the record am an advocate for respect to our men,am an advocate for faithfulness am an advocate for pampering your man.

Hogwash. Many men simply want to have their cake and eat it too. Blaming the woman sijui childbirth sijui changes doesn't hold water. Many men cheat when the opportunity presents itself whether it's a student, egg hawker or whatever. However I do believe that there are some good men out there who know how to nurture relationships with their spouses. After all it's for better for worse

I think it will depend on where the relationship is now.if was heading fast South and he has tasted the eggseller your goose is cooked however much you try.any attempt to show him love will be interpreted as a trap to poison him.whenever a man falls out of love,it is near impossible to reverse. if he has not yet tasted the egghawker luck you you can stop the descent.

That is what happens when your income isn't guaranteed. You can't undertake major projects like building your mum a brand new house or take your kid to Nova.

It boils down to where we mentioned earlier.

Women and money

The matter between man and woman is a cosmological one. If one can solve the riddle of origin, then the consequent behavior should be easy.

Our ancient and wise lights spoke like Pythagoras. If all is number, and each number has a meaning, then our psyches are calculations towards a certain end, that if we search, we find were introduced during childhood. When the mind was adjusting to the world.

Each individual has a set of calculations called the self. Now, due to constraints of the mind, and especially due to physiological and socioeconomic limitation, the self can't be satisfied. The whole process of objectification is explicated beautifully by Melanie Klein et al.

And so we get into a world of object relations, and how we objectify every one and everything. Now each self, with its objectification must necessarily be in conflict with other selves.

But a man needs a woman and vice versa. So the union between a man and a woman becomes that of war. Hence terms like 'projective identification'. And how we 'introject' identities. Then comes the anger and resentment. And the game gets ever complicated.

That's how the game goes and why we suffer.

The solution? Union between you and the creator. Through a daily practice. Practice to overcome the inhibitions of the mind.

The perfect lover is necessarily the perfect human. And dare I remind you that practice makes perfect?

Again, you are getting it wrong. It is not really 'lowering the standards' rather going for another better option. If a woman is respectful and knows what a man wants then she is good for the man. If additionally she comes with intellect, then why not, that is best. Unfortunately, what happens most of the times is that these so-called intellectual women are loud mouth and are not available to provide the number one man's need - sex, secondly food... So if there is no degree holder, and comes along egg hawker who knows how to be the woman to the man, well and good. This is not lowering the standard.

all this is conjecture, but some ladies who live such lifestyles don't like exposing their kids to the same, but some are also just selfish. Could aslo be that the man did not want the kid around, so that becomes one of the condition, the kid has to be away.

A 60 year old nyanye glowing beautiful in body? Forgive us your nonsense please.
Nkt.