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Time out vs kiboko
Mbarire_2019
#1 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 11:26:54 AM
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Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..
Fyatu
#2 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 12:01:02 PM
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Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..



Spare the rod and spoil the child
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#3 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 12:03:56 PM
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Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..


I thought you are talking about "Kiboko Club" the kids show
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Mbarire_2019
#4 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 12:07:41 PM
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Fyatu wrote:
Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..



Spare the rod and spoil the child


Thanks fyatu...but this spanking aka kiboko...might this also translate to the kids also beating others in school since wazazi ndio wamewaonyesha kuchapwa!
Mbarire_2019
#5 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 12:10:22 PM
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sparkly wrote:
Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..


I thought you are talking about "Kiboko Club" the kids show

smile smile you're funny sparkly
Fyatu
#6 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 1:00:32 PM
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Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Fyatu wrote:
Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..



Spare the rod and spoil the child


Thanks fyatu...but this spanking aka kiboko...might this also translate to the kids also beating others in school since wazazi ndio wamewaonyesha kuchapwa!


No. I don't think so. Kiboko serves to make the kid learn that there are repercussions for bad behavior. Juzi juzi i saw a kid throwing serious tantrums in a supermarket just because the mum refused to buy chokolate. The mum stood there helpless with her embarrassed calls for 'baba'/ 'kababa' to tone-it-down falling to deaf ears. I remember when i was growing up my mum would just contort her face kiasi and i will automatically tii as in kutii.

Hapa Mombasani they say "samaki mkunje angali mmbichi".
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AlphDoti
#7 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 1:15:56 PM
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From my experience, there is no "One size fits all" approach to bringing up kids... Among my kids, there is one whom I never, ever applied corporal punishment!

What I did was for sensitive kids, be less strict, use verbal more... As for tough kids, be more strict, sometimes kiboko is necessary. So, for both types, boundaries are relaxed as expectations are achieved and boundaries are contracted when expectations are not met/upheld. And if they persist, then either timeout for the sensitive one and kiboko for the rough one...

In the meantime, all the time, lead by example. Be a partner to the kid. So that you help them find safe ways to explore what draws them, because we want them to learn by making mistakes too.
Swenani
#8 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 2:06:40 PM
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Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Fyatu wrote:
Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..



Spare the rod and spoil the child


Thanks fyatu...but this spanking aka kiboko...might this also translate to the kids also beating others in school since wazazi ndio wamewaonyesha kuchapwa!


Mimi, I practice and escalate in the following order
1.Verbal warning
2.Negative incentives-withdrawal or limiting of TV time, play,going out,withdrawing toys etc
3.solitary confinement aka Grounding-Staying in the the room for specified duration
4. Kiboko
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#9 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 4:48:59 PM
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Swenani wrote:
Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Fyatu wrote:
Mbarire_2019 wrote:
Respectful ladies and gentlemen....does time out work with kids or the age old kiboko that was handed down by our folks is the sure fire way to ensure you don't bring up brats!Comments and thoughts welcomed..



Spare the rod and spoil the child


Thanks fyatu...but this spanking aka kiboko...might this also translate to the kids also beating others in school since wazazi ndio wamewaonyesha kuchapwa!


Mimi, I practice and escalate in the following order
1.Verbal warning
2.Negative incentives-withdrawal or limiting of TV time, play,going out,withdrawing toys etc
3.solitary confinement aka Grounding-Staying in the the room for specified duration
4. Kiboko



These are very good but use them randomly - try not to be routine and predictable.

Also get to know what each like and reward them when they do well and deny them when they are on the wrong.

Once in a while also talk to them, tell them what you feel but forgive.

Finally kama mbaya sana rudisha kwa babayake smile
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Mbarire_2019
#10 Posted : Thursday, January 31, 2019 5:12:54 PM
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Invaluable insight thank you all....if somebody told me how intense parenting is I would've saved my eggs for MUUUCH LATER Kama Niko karibu ku retire in life then now I bring forth lifePray gives you more time to cruise the world,travel etc
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