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Coolbull wrote: Rule 1- If the lady is not circumcised you don't have to pay anything. Marrying her is doing the family a big favour.
#Please remind them that. It is a long forgotten rule on marrying a 'kirugu'.
Great news for those of us who hate both FGM and "paying" for another human being....
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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Dahatre wrote:Coolbull wrote: Rule 1- If the lady is not circumcised you don't have to pay anything. Marrying her is doing the family a big favour.
#Please remind them that. It is a long forgotten rule on marrying a 'kirugu'.
Great news for those of us who hate both FGM and "paying" for another human being....
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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alma1 wrote:i once had a conversation with a few mzees about this kikuyu tradition things.
They told me about a lot of traditions that they decided to get rid of. Very many. As someone said, talk to an old mzee and you will understand what tikiteta means.
So I asked, nicely.
So you got rid of tradition a, and tradition b, and c and d.
So why keep this nonsense of paying parents money to eat for the so called right to marry.
They said, it's god's way. I asked them why this god of theirs only deals with such matters with a group of 10 million humans. But has not seen the need to ask for bloody goats for the rest of the 5 billion.
Wah!
I was told things like, if you don't do it. You'll be cursed.
By whom I asked. After all, that same god of yours told you to circumscise your women and I see none of you cursed. Even worse, your men are taken to Aga Khan instead of the river. Why haven't I seen you drop down dead?
Boss, nilitukanwa. About the need of following "our" traditions. I had to remind them again that they had just told me that there are traditions they don't follow.
Paying for a woman is simple slavery. And a way for parents to make money off their children. It is not a tradition. Just a money milking scheme. It is that simple and clear. That is why parents conveniently decide to ignore all other traditions but keep this one. Because that's how they make their money.  For the first time in a long time I agree with what you've said and how you've said it! Especially the rationale. It's just a way of making money, period!! You read Jomo Kenyatta's Facing Mount Kenya(written in 1938 when people were still by and large following traditions) and you'll see how far people who claim to keep their traditions have wandered from them. Among the Agikuyu, there was female circumcision, adultery(where you allowed people of your age-group to copulate with your wife when visiting),prayer and sacrifice to ancestors, divination through medicinemen and use of potions to gain love(Jomo says he used it once and it worked!), raiding for cattle and women esp against Maasai, non-penetrative intercourse was also allowed for young men and women after initiation I see people claiming how true to traditions they are because they have been admitted into men's council and wonder what they mean. Heck, even their kids can't speak a word in their mother tongue and they are proud of it!
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,237 Location: Vacuum
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Lolest! wrote:alma1 wrote:i once had a conversation with a few mzees about this kikuyu tradition things.
They told me about a lot of traditions that they decided to get rid of. Very many. As someone said, talk to an old mzee and you will understand what tikiteta means.
So I asked, nicely.
So you got rid of tradition a, and tradition b, and c and d.
So why keep this nonsense of paying parents money to eat for the so called right to marry.
They said, it's god's way. I asked them why this god of theirs only deals with such matters with a group of 10 million humans. But has not seen the need to ask for bloody goats for the rest of the 5 billion.
Wah!
I was told things like, if you don't do it. You'll be cursed.
By whom I asked. After all, that same god of yours told you to circumscise your women and I see none of you cursed. Even worse, your men are taken to Aga Khan instead of the river. Why haven't I seen you drop down dead?
Boss, nilitukanwa. About the need of following "our" traditions. I had to remind them again that they had just told me that there are traditions they don't follow.
Paying for a woman is simple slavery. And a way for parents to make money off their children. It is not a tradition. Just a money milking scheme. It is that simple and clear. That is why parents conveniently decide to ignore all other traditions but keep this one. Because that's how they make their money.  For the first time in a long time I agree with what you've said and how you've said it! Especially the rationale. It's just a way of making money, period!! You read Jomo Kenyatta's Facing Mount Kenya(written in 1938 when people were still by and large following traditions) and you'll see how far people who claim to keep their traditions have wandered from them. Among the Agikuyu, there was female circumcision, adultery(where you allowed people of your age-group to copulate with your wife when visiting),prayer and sacrifice to ancestors, divination through medicinemen and use of potions to gain love(Jomo says he used it once and it worked!), raiding for cattle and women esp against Maasai, non-penetrative intercourse was also allowed for young men and women after initiation I see people claiming how true to traditions they are because they have been admitted into men's council and wonder what they mean. Heck, even their kids can't speak a word in their mother tongue and they are proud of it! Wewe na @alma ni slaves. Muacha mila ni mtumwa If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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What is the process for reporting theft of someone's daughter who is already pregnant?
What are you expected to do or say when you get to their home?
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,237 Location: Vacuum
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JoeNgugi wrote:What is the process for reporting theft of someone's daughter who is already pregnant?
What are you expected to do or say when you get to their home? Kwani she is a property to be stolen? Hakutoka na miguu yake,akatoa nguo,akateremsha pantie,akapanda juu ya bed na kupanua miguu kama ameangalia juu? If it's rape and she is being held against her will.Go to the nearest police station If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/28/2015 Posts: 9,562 Location: Rodi Kopany, Homa Bay
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Lolest! wrote:alma1 wrote:i once had a conversation with a few mzees about this kikuyu tradition things.
They told me about a lot of traditions that they decided to get rid of. Very many. As someone said, talk to an old mzee and you will understand what tikiteta means.
So I asked, nicely.
So you got rid of tradition a, and tradition b, and c and d.
So why keep this nonsense of paying parents money to eat for the so called right to marry.
They said, it's god's way. I asked them why this god of theirs only deals with such matters with a group of 10 million humans. But has not seen the need to ask for bloody goats for the rest of the 5 billion.
Wah!
I was told things like, if you don't do it. You'll be cursed.
By whom I asked. After all, that same god of yours told you to circumscise your women and I see none of you cursed. Even worse, your men are taken to Aga Khan instead of the river. Why haven't I seen you drop down dead?
Boss, nilitukanwa. About the need of following "our" traditions. I had to remind them again that they had just told me that there are traditions they don't follow.
Paying for a woman is simple slavery. And a way for parents to make money off their children. It is not a tradition. Just a money milking scheme. It is that simple and clear. That is why parents conveniently decide to ignore all other traditions but keep this one. Because that's how they make their money.  For the first time in a long time I agree with what you've said and how you've said it! Especially the rationale. It's just a way of making money, period!! You read Jomo Kenyatta's Facing Mount Kenya(written in 1938 when people were still by and large following traditions) and you'll see how far people who claim to keep their traditions have wandered from them. Among the Agikuyu, there was female circumcision, adultery(where you allowed people of your age-group to copulate with your wife when visiting),prayer and sacrifice to ancestors, divination through medicinemen and use of potions to gain love(Jomo says he used it once and it worked!), raiding for cattle and women esp against Maasai, non-penetrative intercourse was also allowed for young men and women after initiation I see people claiming how true to traditions they are because they have been admitted into men's council and wonder what they mean. Heck, even their kids can't speak a word in their mother tongue and they are proud of it! We should go back to all our traditions as they were precolonialism. All the traditions had a reason whether relating to birth, circumcision, marriage, death etc and had evolved over thousands of years. The traditions, culture and customs ensured a cohesive and prosperous society until the mzungu appeared on the horizon about 100yrs ago and termed our whole system upusi and as a people imposed on us the law and traditions of the english people living thousands of kilometers away. Is an englishman living in a village in rural manchester more superior to an okuyu living in a village in muranga? Right now a man from a muranga village cant travel to rural china and tell the china man that his traditions, including worshiping budha, are ushenzi. Of all the colonised peoples of the world they all kept their traditions, culture and customs, from asia, india, arabia, latin america, pacific etc but mwafrika was brainwashed and abandoned all that he was doing and followed mzungu just like a dog follows its master. Most of the problems were are facing today as a people are because we abandoned our traditions and culture. Cultures that said theft, prostitution, sex before marriage, alcoholism, murder etc were bad and were punished within the society. We had a judicial system where elders (who had earned their stripes) adjudicated over all cases within the society from murder to theft to land disputes etc. The initiation process for both boys and girls at about 18yrs, which involved a cut and thorough training/induction, ensured that we turned them into respectable and responsible men and women in the society who understood their roles and responsibilities in the society. Sad that as per the engish law that was imposed on us all you have to do nowadays once you are 18 is rush to the chief's office and acquire a piece of paper called an ID and claim to be an adult - now that circumcision was turned from a cultural to a surgical procedure and you may have been cut at the hospital at 12 yrs after finishing std 8, and at the hospital they just cut and dont teach you how to be a man. My point again is that we go back to our culture and traditions, what we did before the little man from england arrived in 1800s and changed our ways.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2007 Posts: 8,776 Location: Cameroon
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Lolest! wrote:alma1 wrote:i once had a conversation with a few mzees about this kikuyu tradition things.
They told me about a lot of traditions that they decided to get rid of. Very many. As someone said, talk to an old mzee and you will understand what tikiteta means.
So I asked, nicely.
So you got rid of tradition a, and tradition b, and c and d.
So why keep this nonsense of paying parents money to eat for the so called right to marry.
They said, it's god's way. I asked them why this god of theirs only deals with such matters with a group of 10 million humans. But has not seen the need to ask for bloody goats for the rest of the 5 billion.
Wah!
I was told things like, if you don't do it. You'll be cursed.
By whom I asked. After all, that same god of yours told you to circumscise your women and I see none of you cursed. Even worse, your men are taken to Aga Khan instead of the river. Why haven't I seen you drop down dead?
Boss, nilitukanwa. About the need of following "our" traditions. I had to remind them again that they had just told me that there are traditions they don't follow.
Paying for a woman is simple slavery. And a way for parents to make money off their children. It is not a tradition. Just a money milking scheme. It is that simple and clear. That is why parents conveniently decide to ignore all other traditions but keep this one. Because that's how they make their money.  For the first time in a long time I agree with what you've said and how you've said it! Especially the rationale. It's just a way of making money, period!! You read Jomo Kenyatta's Facing Mount Kenya(written in 1938 when people were still by and large following traditions) and you'll see how far people who claim to keep their traditions have wandered from them. Among the Agikuyu, there was female circumcision, adultery(where you allowed people of your age-group to copulate with your wife when visiting),prayer and sacrifice to ancestors, divination through medicinemen and use of potions to gain love(Jomo says he used it once and it worked!), raiding for cattle and women esp against Maasai, non-penetrative intercourse was also allowed for young men and women after initiation I see people claiming how true to traditions they are because they have been admitted into men's council and wonder what they mean. Heck, even their kids can't speak a word in their mother tongue and they are proud of it! You two want us to blindly follow PCEA and its gods, and discard our cultures coz of this and that contradiction. First tell us the corruption and power struggles in that PCEA. Allow me to be Alma this time. You two have no moral authority whatsoever. You are essentially very intolerant hypocrites, sth very close to that woman Guru. TULIA.........UFUNZWE!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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simonkabz wrote:Lolest! wrote:alma1 wrote:i once had a conversation with a few mzees about this kikuyu tradition things.
They told me about a lot of traditions that they decided to get rid of. Very many. As someone said, talk to an old mzee and you will understand what tikiteta means.
So I asked, nicely.
So you got rid of tradition a, and tradition b, and c and d.
So why keep this nonsense of paying parents money to eat for the so called right to marry.
They said, it's god's way. I asked them why this god of theirs only deals with such matters with a group of 10 million humans. But has not seen the need to ask for bloody goats for the rest of the 5 billion.
Wah!
I was told things like, if you don't do it. You'll be cursed.
By whom I asked. After all, that same god of yours told you to circumscise your women and I see none of you cursed. Even worse, your men are taken to Aga Khan instead of the river. Why haven't I seen you drop down dead?
Boss, nilitukanwa. About the need of following "our" traditions. I had to remind them again that they had just told me that there are traditions they don't follow.
Paying for a woman is simple slavery. And a way for parents to make money off their children. It is not a tradition. Just a money milking scheme. It is that simple and clear. That is why parents conveniently decide to ignore all other traditions but keep this one. Because that's how they make their money.  For the first time in a long time I agree with what you've said and how you've said it! Especially the rationale. It's just a way of making money, period!! You read Jomo Kenyatta's Facing Mount Kenya(written in 1938 when people were still by and large following traditions) and you'll see how far people who claim to keep their traditions have wandered from them. Among the Agikuyu, there was female circumcision, adultery(where you allowed people of your age-group to copulate with your wife when visiting),prayer and sacrifice to ancestors, divination through medicinemen and use of potions to gain love(Jomo says he used it once and it worked!), raiding for cattle and women esp against Maasai, non-penetrative intercourse was also allowed for young men and women after initiation I see people claiming how true to traditions they are because they have been admitted into men's council and wonder what they mean. Heck, even their kids can't speak a word in their mother tongue and they are proud of it! You two want us to blindly follow PCEA and its gods, and discard our cultures coz of this and that contradiction. First tell us the corruption and power struggles in that PCEA. Allow me to be Alma this time. You two have no moral authority whatsoever. You are essentially very intolerant hypocrites, sth very close to that woman Guru. Wewe ukiboeka unakuwanga na maneno!! No, do not follow PCEA, follow pure Gikuyu culture. Go full throttle, pick everything from food, clothing, rites of passage, construction, gender relations, medicine,beer... Even the most diehard traditionalist knows he has veered off in many aspects because they are impractical. Hypocrisy is lecturing us on strict adherence to tradition while you know you don't subscribe to the same fully.
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