Today, actually last night

One person I know, someone who's helped my life. Someone who's an important cog to my life passed on.

At my age, these things are happening. So let's take a number.

We knew he was going for a few years, so that's not the story. Acceptance is a 7 step program.

However, and however and I hope the men here hear me.

First, I want to start with a disclaimer. This next part is fake. It's a mix of stories and I can assure you, you can't know where my mother lives with the coming story.

So some years ago.
Exhibit A fell in love with Exhibit B. Exhibit A was not rich. Far from it. Exhibit A was a generous guy. Loved his family to death. In fact, when he had money, he'd go to a shop and remove his clothes and get new ones. He'd not forget Person 1, person 2, person 3.

Exhibit A fell in love with a young gal who we shall call gashungwa. Gashungwa was great. Great for him, at least she used to feed him. Great for us, coz she bought me a bow tie.

Then came the Kikuyu task...It's actually now a task not a responsibilty....To take gashungwa to meet the family.

I was part of the family. Very excited....All went good. Until the last day...When we were taking a 2nk from Nyeri...

Exhibit A was told.

"Ndukarihe mumo guko rege"

For those short on Kikuyu like McReggea the jaruo...It means in Nyerian..."Don't bring another Kalenjin here, again"

And that was that.

He left the mumo. And he continued with his life. After all some buggers on this forum have the audacity to say, "you must respect your parents". What if your parents are racists uneducated fools? I'm just asking

So exhibit A went on to his life. With respect.

Unfortunately, every woman he met...Made him drink one more booze. One more viceroy...They were not Mumos...They were exactly what he was told was a "righteous" woman.

It wasn't true,but hey, parents are always right. You do know Hitler was a parent too. But that's a tycho issue.

For the past year, he's refused to talk to anyone in his family. And I mean anyone. Not brother, not sister, not anyone.

But he accepted his friends.

Before he passed he told me this.

There's nothing more liberating than knowing that someone you see around you is there, was there and has always been there.

For one year, he was in a hospital. He saw no one from his family. Refused everyone to enter to see him. Plainly said he does not want to see them.

Now he's gone.

The family has now chased everyone that used to talk to him. Like chased with cops.

After all.......

He had money...So we should expect that from "these pepo". Very sad indeed. But that's life. You can control your friends, but if your mother is an asshole, what do you do?


That's my Friday story so late. But it's a story. That has me thinking very hard about these people.

My fear all the time

Only an issue about shadows. Mothers.....They don't understand

Their's no wind
Someone left us

We can't do shit. Hes gone

I'm not going that way, but that's life. you wait for years...then one day at moments...you are clocked out

He's gone like when we were talking


I want find out where the wind starts from. I may have the chance of slowing it out


Chances Tycho are just that. Chances..


I am what I am,. That means for them. I am who I am


But in my head I'm thinking


Baby let hair down
Let me run your fingers through

etc etc
That's life tycho...tukubali

Bigchick

Even men have mentors. People they believe in. People who trust them. People who have made them what they are...


I was going to remove this post but the pain of this man is too much for me to bear.


Women

1. Don't ever talk about your man's mother. I don't know what your pastors tell you. But please, please I don't know what to tell you women. Whatever the man's mother is, don't open your mouth and talk about the mother.

2. Talk about the mother....Like she's a nice mother. Wait for the man to talk badly about his mother. Then remind him, it's the mother.

3. Your pastor shall not marry you. Can't marry you. Infact, what I know about churches. Mushene mushene mushene in church. That is how your pastors make money. Instead of the Hitler giving money to her family. She gives it to this conman.


Very sad day today and yesterday for me. Good man, f***ed up by these people. Yet these people carry a bible and are allowed to vote.


Bigchick. Finding a good woman is harder than finding money in this country. And thank you. Like really thank you for caring....

Bible is clear.. Respect your parents. Doesn't qualify that, indeed or intime. Always! Be they witches, uneducated, fools or whatnot.. RESPECT!

... and suffice to say, it is the only command with a promise, which seemingly Exhibit A didn't get to enjoy. That is water under the bridge. It is my prayer that where he transitioned to, is not worse because of his choices here... which money somehow seems to influence, more often than not. Something about a camel and the eye of a needle

Pole

I agree with @mavegs. Respect your parents, evaluate their opinion, as long it is within limits, such as if she has a bad reputation, close relative etc. Other flimsy, personal or worldly reasons, such as ati she is not from a good family, ati she's not "mtu wa nyumba" do not hold water. If you're sure you not infatuated with her and you do not fear any harm to yourself if you marry her, then do a head and marry the person of your choice.

Later, if you respect your parents, and the lady is good, the parents will tow the line...

@obi, Jesus said people must always prioritize, they shouldn't just follow their parents or brothers or sisters blindly... PRIORITIZE

Luke 14:26 If anyone comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, his wife and children, his brothers and sisters–yes, even his own life–he cannot be my disciple.