I respect your views Mpenzi and let us agree to differ on this point: I have no problem with, in fact I would prefer clear cut responsibilities for me and my spouse rather than a pool of responsibilities and each one picks what they like today and drop it tomorrow if it is not to their liking. I hold the responsibility of looking after children and home in the highest regard and would not want ever to relegate that to a hired servant. There are women out there who think the same. I would never expect a woman set on achieving career goals to drop her ambitions to be a stay at home wife if she does not share the same feelings I have about looking after children. That is to say we would be incompatible from the beginning. And by incompatible I do not mean that they are wrong and I am right but that we have nothing to offer each other.

@Dash you are spot on!!! I do have double standards for my sisters and children from those of my wife and I see no problem with that. I would educate my daughters and encourage them to get the highest standard of education and achievement they can attain. I would be preparing them to make a choice for themselves. On the other hand if I fell in love with a good hearted hardworking illiterate woman who is devoted to the well being of her family who loves working at home cooking and taking care of the house, I would not in the least think she is less qualified to be my wife just because she is illiterate. To me the qualities of mother, homemaker and lover are of greater value than her level of education. The unfortunate thing is that there are many career women who despise house work. What makes cooking and cleaning and taking care of the children any less honourable that treating the sick as a doctor or marketing or banking. In fact I would argue it is far more honourable because you are doing it for the ones you love rather than for some miscellaneous people whose only payment to you is cash.

Please do not confuse illiteracy (not being able to read or write) with stupidity or foolishness. I have met good, hardworking, illiterate or semiliterate rural women with more sense than some University educated ladies.

Mabeberu, u were sexually molested in ur boyhood days?Is this why you're still single?Aunt Tabby n her ilk could help u.There's help out there...pole

Seven paragraphs and Wazuans pick on one only to respond to.

Molested? My foot! It was the best seven months of my life. Okay, until I discovered Jack Baurer and Michael Jackson.

Hetero-sexual with a preference to the 30-35s, kind Sir.

mahegoat! Buenas dias! I see Wazua was about to Wazua you about that aunt comment........hetero.sexuall with preference for 30-35 noted ( font 72)