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famooz
#11 Posted : Tuesday, May 11, 2010 4:04:09 PM
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I think this intelligencia person is bang on

@ kusadikika,does this then mean that you will marry an illiterate? While being provided for is the joy of every woman,there is worth that comes from feeling useful even to the society/ human kind at large.I find it hard to believe that any woman would find any pleasure in being provided for so that you can lift your feet on the table at end of the day......
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Toxicity
#12 Posted : Tuesday, May 11, 2010 4:13:24 PM
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Though am single i would rather marry a lady who is always looking for success , eager to try out several investment opportunities available,and willing to engage in fruitful competition with me,other than a lady who will just be a couch potato who does nothing in the house other than scolding at you when u try to hustle!!
@chepkel-- wangaris husband ran away because of the PHD...?? funny

update president set president = speaker where president is null
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Kusadikika
#13 Posted : Tuesday, May 11, 2010 4:32:05 PM
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famooz wrote:
I think this intelligencia person is bang on

@ kusadikika,does this then mean that you will marry an illiterate? While being provided for is the joy of every woman,there is worth that comes from feeling useful even to the society/ human kind at large.I find it hard to believe that any woman would find any pleasure in being provided for so that you can lift your feet on the table at end of the day......



The simple answer to your question famooz is not necessarily. Neither will her level of literacy be an issue. I question your assumption that an illiterate woman would feel useless to society / humankind at large. Some of the most important functions of motherhood and housekeeping do not require any literacy skills at all. Please also refrain from calling a housewife "someone who is being provided for." Any person who has done an honest days work in the house will tell you it is no easy task. In fact it is a lot of hard work and I would be willing to work my butt off to make sure the one who does it for me never lacks anything. We are providing for each other. I put my feet up when I get to the house so that she does not have to care about the price of makeup, or a hairdresser or curtains or clothes or a holiday. She gets to put her feet up as well. My experience tells me contrary to your belief that there are many women who would find pleasure in this kind of arrangement.
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aemathenge
#14 Posted : Tuesday, May 11, 2010 4:42:56 PM
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I guess it all boils down to the kind of mother figure who brought you up.

My mother was a working mother untill she retired from the civil service. In this regard, I do not think I would be comfortable with a non working spouse.

In as far as more income than mine is concerned I guess if she spends a large portion on the needs of the family, then I would have no problem.

I do appreciate @Kusadika's honesty on this matter. He is deep.
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gk
#15 Posted : Tuesday, May 11, 2010 5:19:44 PM
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....that's Wangari's version of why they separated; other accounts indicate that she was...not faithfulSad ..some sitting mp from her backyard was mentioned.

..nway her estranged hubby-Dr Mwangi Maathai is actually a PHD!
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Wa_ithaka
#16 Posted : Tuesday, May 11, 2010 5:31:38 PM
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atiriri- no unless ni ile na ya mabebe.
The hubby must appresiate the wife kama akipata success, you give her two extra ones
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famooz
#17 Posted : Wednesday, May 12, 2010 6:58:27 AM
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I would be interested to hear what the ladies on the forum think......like Mahegoat says( hi mahegoat!),i guess it depends on the mother figure who raised us. It also depends on the someones dreams and ambitions.........
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Marty
#18 Posted : Wednesday, May 12, 2010 7:07:47 AM
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Someone must wonder why career women are sometimes replaced as wives by their illiterate mboches. Take note of what Kusadikika says. It is natural instincts for a man to value being taken care of. In a case where a career woman delegates all the responsibilities of taking care of the man other than in the bedroom to the mboch, the man could easily be tempted to replace her even in the bedroom with the woman who does the rest, after all they are both women.

The best arrangement for me would be a career/working woman who balances taking care of me and her other work...a hard find but possible.
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atiriri
#19 Posted : Wednesday, May 12, 2010 7:36:10 AM
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@ Marty
It is not a matter of career woman here. It is a matter of 50-50. Do half i tackle the remaining half. Please let us buy land, "No i want an investment that brings in money daily. You can just buy after all you are also working" I mean such statements
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Mpenzi
#20 Posted : Wednesday, May 12, 2010 8:05:48 AM
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@Kusadikika
Contrary to the way you present your idea of marriage, it actually sounds like a business partnership rather than a loving, fulfilling relationship. The emphasis in your description is the functionality of the marriage - too much emphasis on designated roles. The starting point of marriage is friendship (or at least that what I would like to believe). In your case friendship, shared interests do not appear to figure at all. I wonder what will be the glue when you go thro rough patches of life - those delineated functions of husband and wife?
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