masukuma wrote:are we all on the same page on what 'in kind' is
Good question.
Like, maybe the lady is really pressed for money and her situation is tough. Now she thinks there's no other way but offering something in kind.
You could as well consider it as a bad debt written off and if you're kind enough, give her a lifeline!
Or, she has the means but doesn't want to pay because she's streetsmart. Then you can think like a conman... depending on the cost-benefit appraisal.
Maybe you gave her the money with the implicit intention of getting her even sexually but now you're developing cold feet. It happens. In that case trust your instinct and cut your losses. And keep your mouth shut.
Or employ debt collectors...
Man, this isn't a problem for wazua thinkers.
Try opening another post/thread. Even if it's about atheists. At least some of us can really deploy our otherwise idle mental resources for work that's emotionally gripping.
Or you post her picture that we can keep to our fisi-chauvinist ways...