That's my point exactly. Contradictions in your life... Responsibility and taking somebody's money sent by mistake!

How is taking somebody money who sent you by mistake "being responsible"? Is this what you plan to teach your son to be a man? If this is how you were raised, please do not pass this trait to your son. That's not being a man... being a man is not necessarily all about physique. It's character.

Teaching your children. People use this phrase very often and the assumption is that it is a good thing. What does it mean, to teach your children?? How would you do it??

So give an example, although I taught both the boy and the girl to work, i also made it clear to the boy that yes your sister can do, but if there is something heavy and you are there, then you should take it yourself. For example: assume there are loads outside in the car, a 25kg bag of rice, 10kg bag of sugar, etc... If i sent my son and my daughter to go fetch the items, and let's say by chance my son reached the car first and picked the 10kg bag, that leaves my daughter with 25kg bag... if my son came and said yeah this is equality, then I would slap him on the face! Given the situation, he is supposed to pick the heavier load. Common sense: he has bigger muscles. My daughter can compensate by doing something else e.g. help my wife to set the table. This is equity, sharing of roles.

Another example: If you want to slaughter a bull, you would better ask the son to come and help you put down the bull. It is common sense that your daughter is better suited to do something else away from the bull...

So this is how you teach your kids.

I guess your question has been answered by my post #48

A good man knows his role given a circumstance. And a good woman also knows her role given a circumstance. It is not about competition, but role taking that produces the best whole... in an equitable manner, not equal manner, coz male and female are not same.

I hope it is clearer now?

I believe we have "universal" definition of "good" in our English dictionaries.

Definition good
ɡo͝od/
adjective
1. to be desired or approved of.
"we live at peace with each other, which is good"
synonyms: healthy, fine, sound, tip-top, hale and hearty, fit, robust, sturdy, strong, vigorous More

2. having the qualities required for a particular role. "the schools here are good", "this is a good month for planting seeds". synonyms: fine, superior, quality;

3. that which is morally right; righteousness.
"a mysterious balance of good and evil". "her father was a good man".
(a). Showing kindness. ‘it was good of you to come’
(b). Commanding respect. ‘he was concerned with establishing and maintaining his good name’
(c). Belonging or relating to a high social class. ‘he comes from a good family’

synonyms: virtue, righteousness, goodness, morality, integrity, rectitude; More

4. Valid or benefit or advantage to someone or something.
(a). Valid. ‘the ticket is good for travel from May to September’
(b). "he convinces his father to use his genius for the good of mankind"
synonyms: benefit, advantage, profit, gain, interest, welfare, well-being;
(c) well. "my mother could never cook this good"

Also through positive or negative reinforcement of a child behaviour

In urban culture you are not a good man if you don't take up half of all household chores. And cry.

Exactly.... it's all relative. Why do others think they are "right" more than others?

Complimentarity and equality aren't mutually exclusive.

Complimentarity alone is too vague. It can be about unhealthy relationships, it can be about unfair domination...

For me, it's a matter of choice how a culture will answer the question of who a good woman or man is.

Dictionaries don't give meanings, they describe the meanings inferred from usage. So a dictionary meaning isn't as authoritative as some here would claim.